Just want to vent on here how pissed off this whole thing is making me!!!
Jan 20th my husband recieved a call to get an envelope from the embassy. He went and got it and asked the woman working in the office if she could give him an estimate until this is all done. She said that if we submitted the requested documents right away it would be 4 weeks....
4weeks went by so I called the member of parliment and the secretary said she was going to send an email to Guatemala to see whats happening and would get back to me...a week went by and i didnt hear anything so I called back. She said the embassy never replied to her so sent another email. Another week went by and I heard nothing so called her back. She said that she recieved and email that said the decision would be made by the end of that week (march 16th)...
we waited and waited and heard nothing...the next week i tried calling 3 or 4 times and she never answered so I left 2 messages. I know that I probably sound desperate to her but I AM!! And i know that its probably annoying her that I keep calling but its been 9 months since guatemala recieved the application and 5 months that my 1 and 2yr old and I havent seen my husband....not even the status on ecas has been changed from we recieved your application on June 9 2011. I know that the processing time says 18months but i tthought that when there are kids involved they went faster. Right on the government of Canada website it says that canada is all about reuniting families...
I know there are families who have had to wait longer than we have to finally be together and start their lives and that makes me SOOO Fing mad...how does this effect kids who dont understand that daddy or mommy arent ALLOWED to be here with them right now...I know my daughter knows something is missing but isnt sure what or why. She was always daddys girl and now she prefers sitting with men over women. She always goes right to uncle or grandpa when they are around. She always takes my wallet and looks at the picture of daddy and kisses it...and my son has stopped asking for daddy and never wants to talk on the phone with him anymore...i feel so bad! Hes not old enough to tell me what he thinks or why he doesnt want to talk to daddy. Im so worried that he feels like daddy betrayed him and doesnt want to be here. My babies and their dad are going to have to rebuild their relationship completely from the start because they have been apart for so long. And my husband has his two kids with him in guatemala. Now 9 and 11years old. He left guatemala to come work in canada to give them a better life and didnt see them for 9 years...hes missed out on all 4 of his kids lives....what are we going to do if he doesnt get residence?!
And my husband working for 35cents an hour isnt enough to support him AND 2 kids there so im here working 2 minimum wage jobs, paying rent, paying bills, paying daycare, and sending money to my husband and the kids and Im NOT ALLOWED to go on welfare. I understand that the government doenst want to bring in new people just to put them on welfare but how the hell are we supsosed to get by like this not even by OUR choice?! We were fine before they sent him out of canada so why cant they take that into consideration and let us not so wealthy people get some help until they let our husbands and wives back to contribute to our income?!
Well, if somebody is still reading this... March 21st our lawyer called me and said that the embassy requested another paper...a paper to prove that i havent recieved welfare since the time of the application so i got that paper and the lawyer sent it the next day by email...we still havent heard anything about if its approved or not, and if it is approved, we still have to get an ARC and God knows how much longer that will take!
Thanx for reading this, feels good to vent and for anybody who has been waiting for long than we have been, Im really sorry for you and I hope that this all turns out good for you! And everybody else...I hope you DONT have to wait this long! Imagine waiting all this time to get a decision of NO!
