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well my husband interview in dec 2010 was 2hrs and 15min....and they calld him for it with date and time ..and sent him an email that he had to respong that he is coming.....
fatim good luck insha allah he will pass it everything will be good for you guys.....

my husband did it in french but i think that the agent an older lady with short hair and glasses from quebec too wasnt able to speak arabic though.....i dont know but she didnt beleive in our relationship so ......but ADR won though and the immigration mediator was arabic too....ironic...all of it.....
 
Hello everyone, I am doing fine. Just wanted to let everyone know my friend who filed in March 2011 has finally immigrated her husband here to Canada, She was much more lucky than I was. He landed in Canada Jan 6/12 They never had any problems at all,no medical to redo, nothing! I will post later what is happening with me, I have to work tomorrow and need to get some sleep. Let me know if you have any questions!
 
I feel terrible saying this and asking......but did anyone else have serious second thoughts??? I mean truthfully here.... I am really concerned.... and it has NOTHING to do with my husband... it is me.

This is a huge undertaking and with no guarantees..... I have a huge debt load as it is from school and such and there is no way I want to put my family in a destitute situation for a man.

I am truly frightened right now. So many people and all say the same thing....I was sure he was real and genuine. And I had my husband researched more than a lot of you and I am still really second guessing this.

I suppose if I was wealthy it would not play on my mind so much. But right now things are so incredibly tight that there is no room for paying another rent or expenses. Gosh I am just sitting here thinking....I am freaking nuts... sure he says he loves me...but that does not pay the bills. And with a child to think of... man... I just wonder how you all do it?

I am having a serious open wound moment here... please go easy on me... but be truthful as well...
 
ddobro2 said:
I think it's awesome that your husband is so educated that his native language is Berber and yet he speaks the two other main languages in Morocco, plus English. My mother-in-law can't read or write in Moroccan and can't speak any other languages.

My Mother-in-law only speaks her language. Father-in-law also speaks Dutch...well not as much any more since he's retired. He worked in Holland most of his life.

So when with them everything is translated.
 
vjamal said:
well my husband interview in dec 2010 was 2hrs and 15min....and they calld him for it with date and time ..and sent him an email that he had to respong that he is coming.....
fatim good luck insha allah he will pass it everything will be good for you guys.....

my husband did it in french but i think that the agent an older lady with short hair and glasses from quebec too wasnt able to speak arabic though.....i dont know but she didnt beleive in our relationship so ......but ADR won though and the immigration mediator was arabic too....ironic...all of it.....

Thx for the wishes :D

That is her!!
 
I'm not having second thoughts but after the interview it's like all these months of stress of waiting to get to this point came pouring out of me.

I think majority of people live in a tight financial situation these days. It stresses me out. But I do know that we have a cultural centre that is willing to help out for job searching etc. They are also the ones that helped with filling out the application..reviewing it...what I should include as far as proof etc. They did all this for free!
 
dair2dv8103100 said:
I feel terrible saying this and asking......but did anyone else have serious second thoughts??? I mean truthfully here.... I am really concerned.... and it has NOTHING to do with my husband... it is me.

This is a huge undertaking and with no guarantees..... I have a huge debt load as it is from school and such and there is no way I want to put my family in a destitute situation for a man.

I am truly frightened right now. So many people and all say the same thing....I was sure he was real and genuine. And I had my husband researched more than a lot of you and I am still really second guessing this.

I suppose if I was wealthy it would not play on my mind so much. But right now things are so incredibly tight that there is no room for paying another rent or expenses. Gosh I am just sitting here thinking....I am freaking nuts... sure he says he loves me...but that does not pay the bills. And with a child to think of... man... I just wonder how you all do it?

I am having a serious open wound moment here... please go easy on me... but be truthful as well...
iam so sorry your feeling this way,,this process sure takes a toll on a persons life,,we all have to stay strong and hope that this nightmare comes to an end soon..try to think positive and think that one day soon you will be with your husband :)as for me I never had a second thought and if I were to do it again I would in a heart beat, my friend life is not easy, there is a light at the end of this tunnle,,pls stay strong and believe in the end that all will work its way...I wish you and all the best of luck... :)
 
Hi Dair,

I'm sorry you are having a hard time right now. I think you already know that none of us can tell you anything more than you already know. No one here can say if your husband is an honest man, a complete scammer or one of the other million shades of gray in between.

I do know this. Marriages between Moroccan men and Canadian women are primed for failure. Putting MOC's aside completely, there are so so so many cultural differences that you haven't even thought of. Or worse, you HAVE thought of them, talked about them and THINK you have come to an understanding...but guess what? - you haven't.

Brushing everyone with a broad stroke - Canadians and Moroccans alike - how Moroccans and Canadians view the world is FUNDAMENTALLY different. Yes you both may value family. But what that means to you and what that means to him are likely two REALLY different things. And how that plays out in your marriage is anyone's guess. That goes FOR EVERYTHING - from division of labour, to how you spend your money, to who makes decisions and why decisions are made, EVERY little thing under the sun will need to be renegotiated.

For all of you waiting - if you think this is hard now....wait until he gets here. Honestly. My husband and I have been married for almost 8 years now. And I tell you it does not get much easier.

I know there are some success stories out there - but I promise you they had to work harder than anyone can imagine, and for many of us - it's still anyone's guess. I don't really believe in happily ever after...maybe that makes me bitter. Ok I know it does.

Sorry - I know that got a little off topic - back to that:

Dair - you need to be straight with your husband. Cut the romance, cut the lovey dovey. Give it to him straight. Explain that you are in it this far because you love him and think you two might really have a future together. Let him know that if things don't work out for the two of you, that yeah it will suck and you'll be crushed, but you can accept it.

What you won't be able to accept is if he turns around and eff's things up for you and your daughter by going on welfare. Explain very clearly, that if he abuses your sponsorship he'll be DESTROYING not only you, but your beatiful child. If he takes the conversation well, it maybe a good time to half jokingly remind him that you know where his family lives and would have no problem going there and making sure all his family and neighbour new what a snake and a loser he was for ruining yours and your daughters life. JK (kind of) LOL.

Locolynn
 
Did you get a prenup when you married in Morocco?
dair2dv8103100 said:
I feel terrible saying this and asking......but did anyone else have serious second thoughts??? I mean truthfully here.... I am really concerned.... and it has NOTHING to do with my husband... it is me.

This is a huge undertaking and with no guarantees..... I have a huge debt load as it is from school and such and there is no way I want to put my family in a destitute situation for a man.

I am truly frightened right now. So many people and all say the same thing....I was sure he was real and genuine. And I had my husband researched more than a lot of you and I am still really second guessing this.

I suppose if I was wealthy it would not play on my mind so much. But right now things are so incredibly tight that there is no room for paying another rent or expenses. Gosh I am just sitting here thinking....I am freaking nuts... sure he says he loves me...but that does not pay the bills. And with a child to think of... man... I just wonder how you all do it?

I am having a serious open wound moment here... please go easy on me... but be truthful as well...
 
ddobro2 said:
Did you get a prenup when you married in Morocco?

I think dair is worried about what would happen if the relationship didn't go as planned once her husband landed in Canada and he went on welfare (which she would be responsible for repaying for three years after landing).

A prenup won't protect her from this unfortunately.
 
Yes, I know. But if she had a prenup under Moroccan law, if he ever went back to Morocco, they would force him to pay her and if he could not, they would put him in jail and prevent him from leaving the country. I guarantee you that as a Moroccan man, he will want to return to Morocco at some point after he is in Canada as a PR. All you have to do is follow him there and hire a Moroccan lawyer.
scylla said:
I think dair is worried about what would happen if the relationship didn't go as planned once her husband landed in Canada and he went on welfare (which she would be responsible for repaying for three years after landing).

A prenup won't protect her from this unfortunately.
 
Speaking of cultural differences, my husband is currently on the phone screaming at the top of his lungs to family in Morocco. Between that and the constant stomping from neighbors above us, I seriously need some zen right now.
 
ddobro2 said:
Yes, I know. But if she had a prenup under Moroccan law, if he ever went back to Morocco, they would force him to pay her and if he could not, they would put him in jail and prevent him from leaving the country. I guarantee you that as a Moroccan man, he will want to return to Morocco at some point after he is in Canada as a PR. All you have to do is follow him there and hire a Moroccan lawyer.

Interesting! Very good to know...

Are prenups fairly standard in Morocco?
 
My husband seems to think so. Of course the money that the groom would agree to pay in the event of a divorce would vary - let's say 10,000 dirhams / 3,000-something Canadian on average though.
scylla said:
Interesting! Very good to know...

Are prenups fairly standard in Morocco?
 
ddobro2 said:
Did you get a prenup when you married in Morocco?

Do you mean the 'mahr' a Muslim groom pays the bride?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mahr