Dear that was horrifying.It was really heartbreaking to learn you have been though such a rough time.but now me and the fellow well wishers here will be at peace that you are safe...... and happy to have you back....The mother’s instinct in me had awaken me yesterday feeling anxious about my daughter, I had phoned her and my mom and thanks God they were fine. But I was still restless, then I found myself messaging the last two person I talked to before I left my online life, particularly anything regarding Canadian immigration. Shocked was an understatement upon hearing the horrible news that had been spreading in this forum about me.
The news about my death was not true. I am very much alive, but still recuperating, and hearing this news made me more sick. The bits of information I got from friends who care were not enough for me to understand what had been transcribed in those posts.
But the news of being dead is nothing compared to an issue involving my own daughter (the mother’s instinct had never failed me). Most of the members here were not involved with this issue but for the sake of all members reading this post, I will share it, to warn all of us to be more cautious of any information that we share to this forum or to everywhere or with anyone.
Someone, posing to be the father of my child, had been claiming custody of my daughter and I had been accused that I used someone to legitimise my custody of my daughter to have full control of the funds under her name, which does not make sense at all. To the OP, whoever you are, before you jump into such claims, do your own research. Being a single mother, not married to the father of my child, the father’s name not written in the birth certificate, under the Philippine Law, I am the sole guardian of my child and custody only belongs to me, unless I die. If you want to claim paternity rights, which I doubt I will give it, to have access to any trust fund I, her mother, put into my daughter’s name, be brave enough to face me and not the innocent people in this forum. I don’t know what your motives are for doing so but if you want to pull me down then leave my child alone and let her live a peaceful life.
We are free to post anything here, we can interact with any members we deemed so, but please, this is an immigration forum, this is not a venue to resolve personal private matters, especially involving innocent children, which for me is already below the belt. You can say anything about me, but spare my child, I am begging you.
This forum alone had been a great help to me in pursuing a better life for my daughter in Canada, however, it has also almost taken my life and my identity.
There were many speculations that surfaced with these unpleasant and unauthorised postings, which somehow tainted the trust of my friends or other people involved, directly or indirectly. I will never bring such chaos to this community that served as a pillar to realise my Canadian dream.
I never lied about my identity as a single mother. I never misled anyone about my true nationality or my race as I am proud of my roots and where I came from. I am sick of my government but I am still a proud Filipino. I never ran away from any issues I have with myself or with anyone, I never deactivated this account, come back again, then go away one more time. My point here is, I have always been 100% truthful to all members here, and never used any other account except this (I love my username and I couldn't think of any other name).
I have aired my side of the story, if you still have any doubts and would want to know more about these issues, you are welcome to post it here or send me a private message. As I am still trying to connect the small pieces to have a clearer picture, I would then appreciate if anyone of you could send me screenshots of those postings.
To all my friends in this community, my humble and sincere apologies to whatever these issues had caused all of you. We are all going through a lot and I never wished to be in the limelight in this regard. My support is still in this forum no matter what happens, however, I will be on and off here to focus on my health and spend more time with my family, my daughter. I wish all of us the best in our journey to Canada or any other country, and in life as a whole.
Lessons learnt: the world wide web is never safe. I am in the IT field but I have been too lax and I have not secured all my online accounts well. And I repeat, be wary of any information we share in the internet, and also to people we meet online or in person. My whole life has been compromised in this forum, at the cost of my daughter. If the custody issue is just a scam, to the OP, talk to me in a nice way and privately, I am sure you already got my number as you are claiming you were able to access my emails, WhatsApp, Skype (and my whole life?), I might give you 30% of the trust fund (as per the Indian minimum bribe) I will be putting under my child's account.
To the admin of this forum or the developer of this website, if I may suggest to add more security validations in signing up a new account like phone verification, one account for each IP address or MAC address (too harsh but this is a good security. I know this can be changed but not all can do it). Or perhaps, not to allow temporary emails (I heard this from an active member).
This matter is closed now. I just want to move on and get my life back. Thank you.