How many people want to give up?

[heatherusa]

I had hoped you didn't feel alone. I hope, also, that the original question was about giving up on Canada and not on your family.

Yes, my husband and I are frustrated with the process and since I already went through the process of becoming a US citizen we could easily live in the US. The reason to move was to be closer to my family, my parents who are getting older and to start things fresh since Michigan has a very bad economy and high unemployment rate.

Now that I am here and our daughter is in school it would be a waste of time and energy to turn back. We have been married for almost 12 years and will weather this storm the way we have all our other storms. He is stuck with me and I am stuck with him! ;D (thats a good thing)

 

[tgchi13]

Yes, my husband and I are frustrated with the process and since I already went through the process of becoming a US citizen we could easily live in the US. The reason to move was to be closer to my family, my parents who are getting older and to start things fresh since Michigan has a very bad economy and high unemployment rate.

Now that I am here and our daughter is in school it would be a waste of time and energy to turn back. We have been married for almost 12 years and will weather this storm the way we have all our other storms. He is stuck with me and I am stuck with him! ;D (thats a good thing)

I was surprised when my parents (past the age of retirement) said they'd relocate to be closer to me, even if it was only for six months North, six months South. They are the strongest supporters we have.

NC economy isn't great either, and I have to lose my professional standing but it is what it is and it is easier together than apart.

My greatest wish has been that my husband survives long enough for us to do this.

 

[tgchi13]

Yes, my husband and I are frustrated with the process and since I already went through the process of becoming a US citizen we could easily live in the US. The reason to move was to be closer to my family, my parents who are getting older and to start things fresh since Michigan has a very bad economy and high unemployment rate.

Now that I am here and our daughter is in school it would be a waste of time and energy to turn back. We have been married for almost 12 years and will weather this storm the way we have all our other storms. He is stuck with me and I am stuck with him! ;D (thats a good thing)

Heather, may I ask why you chose to return to Cda and apply outland from here rather than stay together in the US while processing?

 

[heatherusa]

Heather, may I ask why you chose to return to Cda and apply outland from here rather than stay together in the US while processing?

The big reason to split apart and not wait it out in the US was the knowledge that we would get the visa sometime in the middle of the 2010 school year and since my daughter was entering 5th grade and starting at a new school I did not want her to have to start a new school in Michigan and then shortly after start a new school in Edmonton, especially since she would be starting in the middle of the school year. So the idea was to get here and get a place to live and get her in to school so there would be as little interruption as possible. I was afraid that if she started the new school year in Michigan she would not want to move at all and it would be much harder for her. She has settled in nicely at her school here and so at least we have something going right for us.

I was also afraid that since I was moving all of my stuff back that if my husband came with us there was a big chance they would refuse him entry without the visa since it would be obvious that we all intended to move, so that is why he stayed behind. Also, we would be staying with my parents until we got a house we couldnt bring the cats so his staying worked out in that way too. It has just been hard to be apart since we never have been before.

 

[locolynn]

I know I sound like a massive complainer but when things seem to go wrong day after day after day, all the little things add up and it wears and tears on a relationship.

Don't sweat it. That's what this forum is for. Keep your head up!!

Lynn

 

[alpesantezo]

If anyone came into this thinking it was going to be easy and a slam dunk,then you were mislead right away.

I guess is easier to speak positive when you have a short timeline and the visa alredy issued...
i knew it was going to be long 6 -12months cic posted but few days after i send my papers the numbers changed from 6-12 months to 10 - 18... so it is a big shock!... i knew they were slow but not that they were going to become slower.
so i am in this since december and on february i got a letter from the local embassy saying please dont contact us for 10 more months!!!! so even informated this process haven't been what i expected....


The worst thing is that if i want to formaly complain with someone theres noone... noone...
i thank God i have the support of my husband and all of you so i won't become crazy

 

[heatherusa]

The worst thing is that if i want to formaly complain with someone theres noone... noone...
i thank God i have the support of my husband and all of you so i won't become crazy

That is the worst part for me... that I dont get any response or acknowledgment from Buffalo. If they would at least respond the the question of whether or not they actually have the FBI certificate I wouldnt feel so helpless.

 

[alpesantezo]

That is the worst part for me... that I dont get any response or acknowledgment from Buffalo.

Yes thats so true!!!!! and if you get something is an automated response that has no real information!!

 

[locolynn]

Yes thats so true!!!!! and if you get something is an automated response that has no real information!!

i could wall paper a room with all the form letters and emails I have received. Frustrating.

 

[alpesantezo]

i could wall paper a room with all the form letters and emails I have received. Frustrating.

and i bet none of them were helpful!!! ;D

 

[sieb]

The waiting and not knowing when it's all going to be over can cause problems, even in the best relationships.
It takes a lot out of people whos only goal is to be with the one they love and are not allowed to yet.
My wife felt like her life was on hold during the proces.
With only a few weeks to go she decided to withdraw our application.

 

[locolynn]

and i bet none of them were helpful!!! ;D

not a single one!

 

[nae-nae]

it would be nice if they communicated with us more....I know we have ecas but it doesn't really give you any information at all. If it said when letters were sent, the next step to go through, something posted on what was done each time the file is handled, when the file will be looked at again....we'd at least have some idea of what is going on and what is happening next. Not knowing any information prompts us to send in emails or call them asking for information then you get a generic response and are told not to contact them for another 60 days or 10 months as alpesantezo said. That's just wrong!!!

It seems to me that people dealing with the Kingston Jamaica office in the last few months have not received an AOR letter and therefore do not have a B # . One of these people had to send in more information but didn't have an identification number to put on it. Ecas doesn't even have the number listed for you...it just says "In Process" and the date they started to process the file. So how can you be sure the information is received and is matched up with the right file?

Better communication from immigration would definitely help and would also stop many of the inquiries they receive!

There is that old saying that the squeaky wheel gets the grease....but you wonder if the squeaky wheel gets put on the shelf to collect dust just for being squeaky with immigration. Something to think about??

 

[joecreosta]

when the file is done. does visa officer returns every paper you send? or what do they send you? do they give back ur mariage certificate?

 

[alpesantezo]

when the file is done. does visa officer returns every paper you send? or what do they send you? do they give back ur mariage certificate?

They send a lot of stuff back like pictures and evidence not sure if marriage certificate