I guess I have a balanced view on both sides.
I’ve been following ROH from 119 to 125 and now 126. I appreciate all the support and positive vibes I got and/or observed from ROH people, and I also appreciate those so-called ‘negativity spreaders’ who are, in fact, also necessary and important contributors in this forum.
Neither of the two sides are 100% right or wrong all the time. Gaining information and balanced perspectives from both sides is exactly what I need and find helpful. When I was struggling with IELTS or became extremely anxious because of a sudden increase in cut-off, I do need the comfort and ‘good luck’ ‘don’t worry’ ‘ITAs will increase in the coming draws’ blessings as my emotional support. However once I get through the hard feelings, I must start to consider what if the worst scenario happens and what I can do to maximize my chances.
I don’t really believe in luck but rather my own efforts will take me to my desired destinations. I find navinball’s & facethereality’s postings sometimes informative and critical therefore I appreciate their contribution in this thread as much as other solid contributors. However every time when the keyboard fight starts, both sides might get emotional and become purely sarcastic towards each other and that is, to be frankly, the real ‘buzz killer’ and the most useless and annoying thing I’ve seen in ROH threads. (And yes when I ‘liked’ or in supportive of some of their postings I do worry if I will be labeled as ‘one of them’ simply by doing so and I don’t feel right about this either. Sometimes I feel it is kind of ‘political correctness’ in ROH threads to oppose them. )
I agree people should hold hope and support each other here in ROH, and I also agree that people need to face the reality, give up faked hope, and fight for themselves in the competition of EE. When good things happen such as unexpected B2B draw, increased draw size, PNP NOI, or sudden drop in cut-off, we should all celebrate in ROH for people who finally make it through to their chances; but we MUST NOT COUNT ON these external factors and do prepare for the worst scenarios.
When I see a person saying “I’m losing hope at 440” I expect replies are like “hang in there buddy and let’s see if there’s any thing you can do to improve your score” but not only “you’ll be good, don’t give up” (no use) or simple “no faked hope for you, stop dreaming” (no use as well). Positive vibes are good and make us feel better but might not be helpful; curing medicine most likely bitters but not all things that bitter are curing medicines.
