I'm a Canadian female and have been seeing an Albanian man for a few months now. We have a really good relationship, and he is the most caring man I"ve ever met in my life. We do a lot for each other and I've been helping him with his English which isn't really good. He even hired a translator to express himself to me better so I understand what he's saying. He's been working trying to get his refugee status, or whatever it is he needs to stay in Canada. He has 2 children here but is divorced. He's terrified of having to go back to his country and leave his children behind who he can't do enough for them. We've talked about marriage, but I have no idea what I would be getting myself into to marry him. He thinks it would help him if we married. I don't want to go to Albania and if we did marry, I'd like to marry here. Does anyone know anything about this? I've tried finding things to read about it but with no luck. I care for him a great deal and my heart aches for him. I don't want to get myself into any kind of a mess in doing so.
If you step away from this.... with a complete emotional disconnect..... you would probably see a different picture.
Maybe it is not my place to say this:
Someone can be what you would like him/her to be. Someone can do things to show s/he 'cares'. Someone can tell you the things that you would like to hear. And, if you're an emotional person, it is quite easy to get carried away with the 'niceties'. But, most probably there's a hidden agenda: To apply for immigration by spousal sponsorship by marrying you.
1. It seems like his kids are his #1 priority.
2. He is desperately trying to get his refugee status. He does not want to be sent back to his home country because it would be impossible/very difficult to see his children again.
3. The easiest and the fastest way to get PR is through spousal sponsorship as compared to going the refugee route
4. Of course he thinks it would help: It would help him to stay!