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confused and stressed out regarding spouse sponsorship, please give your opinion

YVR123

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thanks guys for your replies, yeah I will submit it soon myself and hopefully it will go all smooth. just waiting on chats translation.

at YVR123, when you say take the "dealing with your pain" issue from your description, can you clarify what you mean by it?

Like what you said here is a lot like how I felt at the time, "You had a simple wedding ceremony at home because of your health condition at the time to endure a big event. "
I mean you wrote SO MUCH about your pain issue instead of concentrate on describing the development of your relationship with your spouse.
So please make sure that if you feel like writing a letter of explanation of your application, focus on the relationship.
 

Luv4all88

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Oct 21, 2023
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ok I'm definitely gonna talk about our relationship from when we started to now as husband and wife, I didn't forget this, but am I ok to mention in a sentence or two that we had a simple marriage ceremony because of my pain/health situation at the time?? and then attach 7-8 medical reports or are the reports unnecessary?
 

armoured

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Feb 1, 2015
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ok I'm definitely gonna talk about our relationship from when we started to now as husband and wife, I didn't forget this, but am I ok to mention in a sentence or two that we had a simple marriage ceremony because of my pain/health situation at the time?? and then attach 7-8 medical reports or are the reports unnecessary?
Of course. But here's what you wrote:
"The only reason for getting married this way was because I had a pain problem in my right leg and foot at that time due to disc extrusion, annular tear according to my mri. It was difficult to endure the pain, and it affected me emotionally, financially because when we got married, I only had couple thousand left in my 2 bank accounts, which I wanted to keep for my treatment.
During this time, I went to 5-6 places physio, foot, chiropractor clinics in Canada for treatment and when I couldn't get relief or MRI or pain specialist appointment here I went to Pakistan and had 3 mri, saw many pain specialists, had bunch of nerve blocks without much relief, this is when I felt I needed some support so we decided to marry. Couple months later, I had a pulsed radiofrequency procedure on my spine which fixed my problem. I have all the reports that I want to attach and My wife accompanied me to some of my hospital visits."

Don't write a novel about your pain, I bolded the points that are just editorial. List some specific things, that happened, with dates (for timeline). I find that for most people when they start writing like this, they would be better to switch to bullet points.

Also: "this is when I needed some support so we decided to marry." You sly romantic dog you. Seriously, you make it sound like you married your nurse so she could administer your meds at a discount rate. This is a terrible sentence that will not impress IRCC. (Note, I'm not saying you need to be 'romantic' or write a romance novel - but statements that sound like your relationship is a transaction/healthcare arbitrage don't sound good either).

In separate blocks:
-You had health issues that took you outside Canada at various times (some factual details - bullet points, dates). If you have some docs to attach, put them in an attachment and note here. (I don't think you need to overdo it with this stuff - you don't really have to prove this)
-You met your spouse [whenever whenever], this overlapped with some of your visits more recently, you spent more time together, she's very good at taking your temperature and pulse (joke), etc. You got engaged and married. And yep, part of this was because of time you spent together while you were at home country dealing with health issues.
-Marriage and ceremonies: you had a smaller ceremony because of the health issues and pain (see above). It was not an arranged marriage so this smaller wedding fine, look who attended, etc.
-You really ought to include specific factual info about time you physically spent together, travelling or similar, esp alone or at least as a couple, and esp after marriage.

Just my opinion, good luck.
 

Luv4all88

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Oct 21, 2023
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ok thanks i will note your suggestions, but you saying "when I needed support, we decided to marry" sounds like relationship is transaction, but for me it felt more like interdependence on each other.
But this thread has helped me a lot so I'm gonna make sure I'm more concise and not make it come across like pain was the only factor for getting married and not our 10 years relationship.
 

armoured

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ok thanks i will note your suggestions, but you saying "when I needed support, we decided to marry" sounds like relationship is transaction, but for me it felt more like interdependence on each other.
But this thread has helped me a lot so I'm gonna make sure I'm more concise and not make it come across like pain was the only factor for getting married and not our 10 years relationship.
It's just my opinion. Write what you like. I don't think that sounded great but again, just my opinion. I think all this is better as explanation for why you were in country ad spent a lot of time together (after knowing each other a long time).

My view is put factual, verifiable things esp time spent together and factual (obvious) context as much as possible. You don't need to write a medical novel with extensive detail.

To go back to a point about your medical stuff: you do not need to provide a lot of supporting materials or details and evidence. You are a citizen, you can do what you like. The medical is mostly context about why you were in your home country / seeing your (future) spouse. There is not much you need to 'prove' here, although a wee bit of evidence (or offer to provide evidence) might increase comfort/confidence of IRCC officer that this is all 'real.'

The only point where it rises above this is the more modest and simple marriage ceremonies. For that, sure, provide some evidence and if it's easier for you to provide some document (contemporaneous) to show you had a pain condition around the time of the wedding (easier than writing a lot), then sure, do so.
 

Luv4all88

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Oct 21, 2023
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ok thanks I really appreciate your help on this, I was lost before, I felt like I had to explain every aspect of what I went through to explain for choosing to do a simple ceremony, but definitely now I will keep it brief and to the point and phrase it how you said.
 

Ebuka91

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Nov 30, 2022
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I absolutely agree with armoured. Also, write a letter explaining more of the financial side (you weren’t able to financial afford the big wedding because of the injuries you had). This will help as you may be questioned on why it wasn’t the big huge wedding with all the cultural aspects. Just my opinion.