FEBRUARY 2011 applicants here!!

[Habibti]

Right now, I'm pretty sure you can't see much beyond the crushing sense of disappointment and heartbreak. I think that you should give yourself some time to first deal with that, and then consider where you go from here.

Many things in life are a possibility, but that doesn't mean you should let go of hope. I know when you've had many tests in life, you wonder to yourself what the heck God is thinking when he tosses another one your way. You want to demand, hey, can't you see I've got enough to be dealing with now?? Been there, done that.

I guess all I'm saying is, Yogi Berra said it ain't over till the fat lady sings. Don't make unilateral decisions regarding your marriage. Your husband married you, when he probably had the chance/choice to marry others. Don't denigrate that choice now, what happens to the two of you has to be a mutual decision.

You know.... I am suffering so much right now, I don't think straight. There are 2 possibilities: ONE my husband used me for entry to Canada or TWO the visa officer made a terrible error of judgment. The visa office gave us false hopes in June when they asked us to pay for visa asap so my husband might travel to Canada with me after my visit to him this summer.

I just contacted my MP to get the notes ASAP. We will see from there. I have a terrible migraine and I just feel my life is over.

 

[CandyB]

@ Habibti

You cannot give up. You can't and you won't. You've gotta fight. For all of us. You're a woman and you are strong. We all are. It doesn't stop here. You haven't waited all this time and paid all this money and jumped through all these hoops to give up now. Just a few more steps.....your close. God only gives us what we can handle. Hang in there. I know it hurts but hang in there.

 

[Habibti]

@ Habibti

You cannot give up. You can't and you won't. You've gotta fight. For all of us. You're a woman and you are strong. We all are. It doesn't stop here. You haven't waited all this time and paid all this money and jumped through all these hoops to give up now. Just a few more steps.....your close. God only gives us what we can handle. Hang in there. I know it hurts but hang in there.

Thank you Candy for taking the time to give me that extra push. I just talked on the phone to a woman who sponsors her husband from Morocco. They got denied in 2007 and they had to fight to be together. They won their appeal and they have been together for 2 years now and have a very happy marriage. They have 17 years difference. The age factor was one of the reasons they got refused.

She said something that really strikes me. When you marry someone, you must keep the commitment no matter what. It would be wrong to turn my back on my husband and my marriage just because one person said "no".

Right now I am not in the right state of mind and emotions to decide what to do. You know... I feel like part of me died today. It is an horrible feeling. I badly need to see these notes, to understand the logical reason behind the "no". My husband is in a state of shock. He could barely talk and his emotions are frozen.

I hope everything will be allright one day and I don't wish to anyone to go through what I am going through. It is like descending to hell.

 

[CharlieD10]

Habibti, I hope the shock has worn off and today has put some distance between you and the initial disappointment. Still encouraging you to keep your head up.

Other Feb folks still waiting, keep on keepin' on.

 

[Habibti]

Habibti, I hope the shock has worn off and today has put some distance between you and the initial disappointment. Still encouraging you to keep your head up.

Other Feb folks still waiting, keep on keepin' on.

Thank you Charlie for caring. I could not stop crying all day yesterday and last night. The tears just kept flowing out. I tried to sleep as I had a terrible migraine. I woke up crying and screaming. I don't think I can go to work. I feel I am going to keep crying all day. I received email from my husband. He took a few Advils to help him to sleep. He woke up at 1:00 unable to sleep. He had to go to work this morning despite he feels his heart bleeding. God! it is hard! I feel like I am drowning sometimes.

 

[CharlieD10]

Crying is nature's pressure release valve. In taking my professional exams, I have failed papers twice. Each time I knew after I came out of the exam hall that I had failed, and I went home bawled like a baby for a few hours. It lets off the hurt, the disappointment and the shock, and calms the emotions to where they become manageable again. So, cry as much as you need to, until the calm comes.

Just keep your head up and keep treading water, no matter the drowning sensation.

 

[Lucasvilla]

Hi Habibit and everyone in the room... i really feel so sorry for u, but every disappoint is a blessing to my believe. stay calm.
Can smebdy help help me this, am frm Africa ... i work and live in dubai for 14months and i need to send my document to my visa office which i need to include police clearance. I already got a police clearance in dubai, DO I NEED TO GET A POLICE CLEARANCE FRM MY COUNTRY AS WELL ? hope to read from you guyz,
Thanks.

 

[CharlieD10]

Lucasvilla, you need police clearances from EVERY country you have resided in for 6 months or more, including your country of citizenship.

 

[GetUsHome]

Auurggghhh!

Our lawyer sent an email to our IO asking what was up. She sent back an incomprehensible reply that our lawyer has now requested she clarify. Even our lawyer is WTF?!?!?

We are doing an Access to Information request on her notes. And if she is completely outrageous then we will go talk to her boss.

We thought we were such a boring simple case. This is excruciating.

Habibti ~ You hang in there. You have our sympathy.

 

[CharlieD10]

Elaborate on "incomprehensible"? Maybe he/she wrote it before her first cup of coffee, or during a post-sugar crash. It happens.

 

[GetUsHome]

It is appears she is cutting and pasting her letters together and not proof reading them. The first letter she sent us was also a bad cut and paste job.

She seems to be asking again for the documentation but doesn't tell us what she wants. We sent her all the additional information she requested last time plus our original information plus additional she did not ask for but we knew she would want (she is now asking for it - if she had read our package she would see she already had it).

Elaborate on "incomprehensible"? Maybe he/she wrote it before her first cup of coffee, or during a post-sugar crash. It happens.

 

[CharlieD10]

: No, they don't always pay attention. Sad, isn't it? It's only our lives they are mucking about with, after all!

 

[Calgary-Bound]

Well I emailed Buffalo a couple days ago asking about the letter they said they sent In Sep that I never got and was suppose to resend a month ago regarding background info which I havent recieved.The responce I got was the automated email your app is in process we dont need any further info at this time thanks for keeping your inquiries to a minimum.This is such BS if they didnt need anything than why did they say they sent a letter in Sep and was going to resend it and extend the timeline when it was suppose to be returned.They also said I had to redo my medicals since there expired and theres no record of me being in Canada.So I sent my bank statement and copies of work visas to prove ive been here and still havent heard anything about that and that was a month ago also WTF.

 

[GetUsHome]

I guess you and I are the problem children of February. :'(

Well I emailed Buffalo a couple days ago asking about the letter they said they sent In Sep that I never got and was suppose to resend a month ago regarding background info which I havent recieved.The responce I got was the automated email your app is in process we dont need any further info at this time thanks for keeping your inquiries to a minimum.This is such BS if they didnt need anything than why did they say they sent a letter in Sep and was going to resend it and extend the timeline when it was suppose to be returned.They also said I had to redo my medicals since there expired and theres no record of me being in Canada.So I sent my bank statement and copies of work visas to prove ive been here and still havent heard anything about that and that was a month ago also WTF.

 

[Habibti]

The MP office just called me. I am quite upset. She FIRMLY said it is NOT their job to order the notes. I have to do it myself. She has been doing this job for 16 years and never did they do that kind of job. She even talked to other MP offices and they all said the same thing.

I just want to cry!