Ack, okay, I sponsored my husband and he's been here a little over a year. He was always somewhat abusive but prior to our marriage, like 2 months, he was better and nicer. Got married, and then went home to have a baby.
During this time here in Canada, he has shown himself to be lazy, constantly being fired or quitting cause his "bosses are cheating him / racist / etc".
I suppose the worse part are his arguments if he doesn't get his way. In Canada, he will be verbally abusive or due to prior physical abuse on me in his home country, make me scared thinking that he will hit me. He has yanked me by my hair once in Canada, and this is so far the extent of it. When he did that, it was the end of his spell on me as he did that in front of our child. On top of things, he has a new girlfriend.
Anyway, I want him out and he is slowing preparing himself to leave. I'm hesitant to force him out as it might trigger something in him. He doesn't have a job right now (lost it today in fact) and is currently finishing his HS diploma which makes that job prospects difficult to find. At this point, he doesn't sound like a winner, but he is charming and romantic and all that -- which makes you forget the bad stuff.. Though I'm not forgetting anything anymore.
Okay, so the deal is that I make only 30,000$/a year prior to taxes and have a kid (with him). Today he said that maybe he should go on welfare and work a few hours a week under the table while he attends school, so that he will have enough to live on his own. However, considering his abusiveness and the reasons I want to divorce, will I still be obligated to pay back the 18,000$ in welfare that he will be able to collect until my sponsorship obligations run out?
My last option is getting him deported because there are things that I know that would be able use.... But, despite him being an asshole, I still feel obligated to give him a chance in Canada as his prospects back home are nil.
During this time here in Canada, he has shown himself to be lazy, constantly being fired or quitting cause his "bosses are cheating him / racist / etc".
I suppose the worse part are his arguments if he doesn't get his way. In Canada, he will be verbally abusive or due to prior physical abuse on me in his home country, make me scared thinking that he will hit me. He has yanked me by my hair once in Canada, and this is so far the extent of it. When he did that, it was the end of his spell on me as he did that in front of our child. On top of things, he has a new girlfriend.
Anyway, I want him out and he is slowing preparing himself to leave. I'm hesitant to force him out as it might trigger something in him. He doesn't have a job right now (lost it today in fact) and is currently finishing his HS diploma which makes that job prospects difficult to find. At this point, he doesn't sound like a winner, but he is charming and romantic and all that -- which makes you forget the bad stuff.. Though I'm not forgetting anything anymore.
Okay, so the deal is that I make only 30,000$/a year prior to taxes and have a kid (with him). Today he said that maybe he should go on welfare and work a few hours a week under the table while he attends school, so that he will have enough to live on his own. However, considering his abusiveness and the reasons I want to divorce, will I still be obligated to pay back the 18,000$ in welfare that he will be able to collect until my sponsorship obligations run out?
My last option is getting him deported because there are things that I know that would be able use.... But, despite him being an asshole, I still feel obligated to give him a chance in Canada as his prospects back home are nil.