i am 42, i speak fluently french and english. learning spanish as we go. She speak spanish and english, learning french as she go.
when we talk together, i talk to her in french and her spanish. She is also learning french, so this method allow us to make progress quite fast. If we are not sure to understand, we both switch to english. when we text, i write in french and spanish (50/50) and she does the same.
we are both catholics.
she studied in university and have diploma in both journalism and administration. i studied in electricity in college.
I run a manufacturing business of about 90 employees and a turnover of 20M$ CAD (still growing) for about 15 years now. she does not know how big is my company, i always managed to keep that low key and make it look like it is a VERY small thing with low numbers. we do not talk much about this subject (intentionaly from me) as i am wise enough to know that there are many opportunist that are looking for these kind of "opportunity". i always dress totaly casual and i am not a flashy guy at all. anybody who would see me would think i am just a regular guy with a regular job. i never told her about any assets. and she never asked neither. i am totaly carefull not to look like a big fish.. or any fish at all. But i have to say that it is obvious that she have no interest in that.
Also, she hate the cold, and she totally freak out when i tell her how it is cold here these weeks.. She would like me to go to live in Colombia instead of her coming to Canada. but for now, i just tell her i can't because of my "small shop". everytime i see she feel it is unfair that she will have to do all the sacrifice. So, to be honest, i genuinly feel that moving to Canada is not the dream of her life, but she will do it for me. it is not a double face game, as we had real arguments about this subjects already. She is not the "i follow what you say at any cost" type of girl. She also have her way of thinking and is not shy to argue if something affect her values. i am talking about Colombian style argument.. not the submissive type that would do or accept everything for a PR.
other than that, i am well traveled and i have been to a lot of country (Russia, US, tons in Caribbean, Africa, Mongolia, Thailand, China, Belarus, Germany, Sweden, etc). i have no idea how many hundreds of flight i took in my live. Just to point out that i have meet a lot of people from a lot of socio-economic context. and i quickly developped a sixth sense for "opportunist people in disguise". some years ago i once had a GF from Thailand, and she tried to play me the "long con".. and i could see her coming from 10 miles.. I am a pragmatic person, with very strong personality and i am not easy to fool. And as a pragmatic person, even if i love all with all my heart and i truly believe she is the love of my life, i still keep both of my feet grounded and on the lookout.
i just re-read this reply and i sound a bit harsh... but like i said, i love her and i want her in my life, but i keep my eyes open.
For the India/Singapore, i feel there is something she does not want to tell me. and i know i will find it in details soon enough. But for now, i tell myself that if it would be something "that" bad, she would be in jail in one of these country, or would have made international news.. it is a delicate subject and i know she is not comfortable talking about this.. i feel shame in her reaction. So, now she is in contact with her lawyer in order to have all required documentation to explain what happened in India as justification in her TRV (not trying to "erase record".. everybody know it will be there for 100 years..)
again, thanks!
