Hey there. Quick Question.
In 2017 I married my husband from India and I did the work to sponsor him here. In 2018, the application was approved during his visit with me.
That whole year after our marriage we were rocky.
Then during his visit it was just terrible. We got excited to know our application was approved but still we had so many issues brewing.
He went home and about 3 weeks later, my anger took over and I snapped. I ended the relationship.
His friend offered him a job in a town 3 hours from my town. And after about 2 or 3 weeks of the break up he came to Canada in November. Where when I asked him to come, he didn't want to come until Jan.
So he came to Canada. He never once came to my house. He only called and messaged. Never tried to come see me and only expected me to move there. Well for me, if that was my relationship, I would have fought for it and put the relationship first then the job 2nd.
Then he left that job and took another job about 7 hours from my house. Still never tried to come see.
Anyways. I moved as well. And I had soooooo much anger towards him for the last year and a half that I never allowed myself to process anything. That's how I deal with emotions.
But these last few months I have allowed those emotions to catch up and to feel and to think.
Now that I am thinking clearly, I do feel my ex used me in a very clever way to get to Canada. I feel that he said things to push me to end it with him. And many other things that I can see now and say yes that makes sense.
We are still separated. I have not taken a divorce and I told him that he can. I also have never seen him since he entered Canada as a PR.
But now I am thinking is there anything that I can do to basically teach him a lesson or make him pay for the embarrassment and shame he brought to me?
I know it sounds childish but it really hurts because I thought this was a legit relationship but when I really think back, there were so many redflags and he really played a good part.
Also please note this is a quick rundown of the relationship and there was so many things to do. I tried my best and I always thought once he comes, he will change. So I tried to wait as long as I could.
In 2017 I married my husband from India and I did the work to sponsor him here. In 2018, the application was approved during his visit with me.
That whole year after our marriage we were rocky.
Then during his visit it was just terrible. We got excited to know our application was approved but still we had so many issues brewing.
He went home and about 3 weeks later, my anger took over and I snapped. I ended the relationship.
His friend offered him a job in a town 3 hours from my town. And after about 2 or 3 weeks of the break up he came to Canada in November. Where when I asked him to come, he didn't want to come until Jan.
So he came to Canada. He never once came to my house. He only called and messaged. Never tried to come see me and only expected me to move there. Well for me, if that was my relationship, I would have fought for it and put the relationship first then the job 2nd.
Then he left that job and took another job about 7 hours from my house. Still never tried to come see.
Anyways. I moved as well. And I had soooooo much anger towards him for the last year and a half that I never allowed myself to process anything. That's how I deal with emotions.
But these last few months I have allowed those emotions to catch up and to feel and to think.
Now that I am thinking clearly, I do feel my ex used me in a very clever way to get to Canada. I feel that he said things to push me to end it with him. And many other things that I can see now and say yes that makes sense.
We are still separated. I have not taken a divorce and I told him that he can. I also have never seen him since he entered Canada as a PR.
But now I am thinking is there anything that I can do to basically teach him a lesson or make him pay for the embarrassment and shame he brought to me?
I know it sounds childish but it really hurts because I thought this was a legit relationship but when I really think back, there were so many redflags and he really played a good part.
Also please note this is a quick rundown of the relationship and there was so many things to do. I tried my best and I always thought once he comes, he will change. So I tried to wait as long as I could.
