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[Shiny88]

He just worries about his PR , job and new Canadian friends.... He just used her wife to get Canadian PR.....He forgets his wife has done so many things to make sure he could come to Canada united with her...He forgets how his wife missed him so much and wanted living together , have babies , house for their family....He forgets he had promised to God to take care his wife even the worst problems until death separate them . He forgets his wife guarantee him and sign in CIC paper....
I told my wife about you....My wife was upset and told me if she were your wife , she will report police, CIC , judge ( when you want divorce in court ) etc to make sure CIC kicks you out from Canada.
If your wife is so bad to you , why not you return your Canadian PR card to her and you go back to your country and never live in Canada anymore? I hope someone did the same things to your sisters , daughters ( if you married again with other woman next time and has babies) so you will know how your wife's feeling now !!
A person like you has made other people who are genuine marriage get harder to apply PR and long processing time in CIC . Shame on you!!

thumbs up. i also told my hubby i was so frustrated about his pr worries ,my husband couldnt believe wat i was telling him about this guy.This guys wifes deserves all the hapiness in this world, but he is too selfish to give to the only person that supported during this immigration process,and sacrificed so much to get his a33 here. what a shame.

 

[hsbalouch]

very interesting, he was jobless therefor he took all the abuse from his wife, now he has a job and ''friends'' and wife becomes a bully, why did you wait until you got a job? I am sure she was bearing all the expenses during these 20 months, accommodation, food, transportation, sex partner and what not,
now you have a job you can have a baby if it was your only fear, you can take her into confidence that as soon you feel comfortable you will at least start planning to buy a house, trust me if this is what she wants, she will be actually a more happier lady to know that her hubby is at least trying to do what is not an unfair demand from a wife, if she still has the same behavior you won't have any regret and fear leaving her ........ but instead you are planning to leave her shows your only intention is to save your PR status not your marriage......... very SAD !!!

 

[scos]

Just finished replying to his other thread. I don't want to repeat it all here, but there is one thing I will add. It takes two to argue. Sure, maybe from your side it looks like she is controlling and nagging. But you know, maybe you are in the wrong and refuse to see it. If you told her before you got your PR that you couldn't wait to get here and start a family then she might expect to start one when you got here. If you said you were worried about finances and wanted time to settle and get a job and all that, I can understand that too. My wife and I are going to do the same. But when you FINALLY get a job and settled, after living off of her, and then have the nerve to say you don't want a family then I can understand why your wife would not only feel angry but also feel used. And when your first inclination given all this is to dump her (and this is all by your OWN admission) then I smell a rat.

 

[europe]

The Scared: People like 'you' makes our lives harder to bring our spouses. I did not want to be hard on you. But I can't help myself saying you a 'scammer'. Please forgive me. I really don't like a man like you, being myself a man. I just see that you are so selfish. Jumped into 'divorce' within 20 months! So sad a man, you are! Feel Shame for you being a man. Every man MUST know how to handle his wife delicately, and softly. It is delicate kinda relation, and at the same time heck of a responsibility. Please grow up man.

Sain4peace i totally agree with you , it is harder for us to bring our spouse because they are some loser they using to get Pr and aftre ditche you , that is not fair at all to do to your spouse.. i am with my husband 4 years and more and we apply last February for Spouse application and yet we dont have the answer,

 

[sunsun]

Thank you Shiny 88.....

 

[sunsun]

One more thing : His wife regrets to sponsor him and may be she thinks it is better married with Canadian citizen / PR than sponsoring this
b**t**d guy !!!

 

[The Scared]

Guys just do not judge pepole because of somebody else not everybody is a scamer nd for sure im not one of them you dont know my personaal life so plz dont judge thnx to the ppl who answered for what i asked . nd as for you guys how can you suport your wife nd a baby ad buy a house when u dont make enough im not a gou who would bring a human being to this world nd not being aable to give my kid everything he or she wants its eay like a lot of ppl do go ask for social services im not like that nd its not that i dont wanna have kids but just not now later on there is time for both of us so guys 1 more time dont judge ppl based on what 1 person said all i said is that my wife has changed shes not the person i fell in love with what would u say how would u guys feel if u came home exhausted from work nd u got greated with being given shit bcs you abut everything instead of being greated with a kiss nd warm hug ??? so plz dont judge ppl unless you are in their shoes

 

[SenoritaBella]

Hmm... this is obviously a sensitive topic and while the issue of "marriage of convenience" is important, we can't forget that some genuine spouses may/can be victims of abuse. If what the OP alleges is true, why would he want to stay with her? He took a chance to be with her too, why wouldn't he be concerned about losing his PR? If this was going on in any other relationship that doesn't involve sponsorship, it will be just another relationship with problems but where there was sponsorship, we don't want to accept it as anything but sinister motives? Hmm...

Someone asked why he didn't leave when he didn't have a job? Look up the signs/dynamics of abusive relationships and you will find that alleged victims often don't leave for many reasons - for one, the OP did not know anybody and probably didn't know where to go for help. Now that he has friends, he is empowered. By the way, if the OP was female the comments wouldn't have been so harsh which is a troubling aspect about our society that seems to think men should be able to put up with abuse or that refuses to believe women can be abusers too.

I've heard about sponsors seizing passports, etc and how many times have we read posts on this forum from sponsors asking how to "deport" spouses for whatever? :-X I don't know what's going on in the OP's marriage but I think we should be cautious about making assumptions especially when there are allegations of abuse vs marriage of convenience. Staying with an alleged abuser(not saying that the OP's wife is), is no way to show gratitude.

Having kids never solves marital problems, eventhough many of us would like to live in la la land. It is more plausible that the OP does not want to have kids with her because of the alleged marital issues which is understandable, if any of us are being honest with ourselves.

@ The Scared, sorry to hear about your ordeal. I pray that both you and your wife are able to get through this and hopefully come to better place. God bless.

 

[sunsun]

Let's say CIC requires you to stay 10 year with your wife if not , you will lose your PR... I believe 1000 % you WILL NOT DIVORCE your wife... When you are dating with your wife , you and your wife must have so many plans , from plan A to Z.....That's why your wife is sure to married you and sponsoring you.....
Your wife has a job , that's why she can sponsor you....You also have a job....Now you are afraid have a baby because of financial situation ? Do you think is it like your country or other countries which needs a lot of money for having a baby for first day of pregnancy?
How much money do you need to pay hospital, doctor , school , food etc?
If you live in other country which must pay a lot of money to study in school ( the best schools tuitions are in US Dollar even the country's currency is not in US dollar and the country is third world country which salary is so low ,cost of living is so high and unemployment rate is so high ). So I can understand your situation.....
You are not Family man and please don't use other members statement like " You don't know my situations , bla bla.....
I believe your first priority is only To secure your PR , send money to your parent , invite them , to show people in your country ," Hey , I am Canadian PR now.....I am a Tax Payer .....!!!!!
Do you think your wife is dumb and can't calculate the cost of having a baby ? She loves you and that's why she wants a baby from you !!!!

 

[sunsun]

If your situation right now is Your sponsor application is in process inland and you are not allowed to work ,you do not have money then your wife push you to have a baby or she will cancel the application then I can understand your situation.
You are not ready for marriage . You were married with your wife just because you got benefits like you can get PR etc....
For you , marriage is just like business....If it gives you profit/benefit and DEAL ....If not , NOT DEAL or DIVORCE !!!
Before you got married , Don't you use your Brain to think what will you do after marriage ? You know you will soon have a baby because I believe your wife had already discussed it before married . You must say " Ok , honey / Darling /etc I will do this ,that .....after I got PR...
I will do anything for you .....
Now after you got PR , you complain that your wife is so fussy or demanding etc.... How about when your wife submitted application to sponsor you ? She has done everything to make sure CIC granted you a PR.... She was willing to sign paper to guarantee you and all of the costs if you haven't work....Now you wan DIVORCE HER.....Wow...
Marriage for you just for FUN !!!!!

 

[Shiny88]

sunsun; i guess theres no point to explain him what he plans to do is wrong, we just have to accept the fact that he used his wife for the golden pass to canada. I feel sorry for that woman, i think the only reason he is proud to pay taxes is because his wife wont need to support him, all he wanted its the pr and get rid of the source of it and not causing any financial trouble to his wife by going onn welfare. Atleast lol

 

[Shiny88]

Hmm... this is obviously a sensitive topic and while the issue of "marriage of convenience" is important, we can't forget that some genuine spouses may/can be victims of abuse. If what the OP alleges is true, why would he want to stay with her? He took a chance to be with her too, why wouldn't he be concerned about losing his PR? If this was going on in any other relationship that doesn't involve sponsorship, it will be just another relationship with problems but where there was sponsorship, we don't want to accept it as anything but sinister motives? Hmm...

Someone asked why he didn't leave when he didn't have a job? Look up the signs/dynamics of abusive relationships and you will find that alleged victims often don't leave for many reasons - for one, the OP did not know anybody and probably didn't know where to go for help. Now that he has friends, he is empowered. By the way, if the OP was female the comments wouldn't have been so harsh which is a troubling aspect about our society that seems to think men should be able to put up with abuse or that refuses to believe women can be abusers too.

I've heard about sponsors seizing passports, etc and how many times have we read posts on this forum from sponsors asking how to "deport" spouses for whatever? :-X I don't know what's going on in the OP's marriage but I think we should be cautious about making assumptions especially when there are allegations of abuse vs marriage of convenience. Staying with an alleged abuser(not saying that the OP's wife is), is no way to show gratitude.

Having kids never solves marital problems, eventhough many of us would like to live in la la land. It is more plausible that the OP does not want to have kids with her because of the alleged marital issues which is understandable, if any of us are being honest with ourselves.

@ The Scared, sorry to hear about your ordeal. I pray that both you and your wife are able to get through this and hopefully come to better place. God bless.

sorry but i am not supporting what you saying here. Just read his post again and if not enough then keep reading over and over again.The way he explained his situation is damn obvious why he married his wife. If his wife is abusive he wouldnt write''now that i have job and friends''. before that why he didnt just get the hell out of this country if his wife was really abusive, why would he stay in canada. And the only worry he had was if he gonna loose his PR! he didnt ask how can i solve or help to better my relationship with my wife. coco

Someone who want to better their relationship would seek advice help to make it better not ask IF THEY WOULD LOOSE THEIR PR IF THEY LEAVE THEIR PArTNErS. shishhh

 

[sunsun]

Thanks Shiny88....
I just hate this scared man is going to divorce his wife after he got his PR... Canadian PR is everything for him.... I just don't understand other members still want to pray for this man....
Other member said Don't judge , you don't know his situations..... And now this scared man used those statements to defend himself....
Congratulation, scared man..... Your mission to get PR by using your wife is already completed.... Now you are Free Man and a great Tax Payer in Canada..... WOW !!!!

 

[Shiny88]

Thanks Shiny88....
I just hate this scared man is going to divorce his wife after he got his PR... Canadian PR is everything for him.... I just don't understand other members still want to pray for this man....
Other member said Don't judge , you don't know his situations..... And now this scared man used those statements to defend himself....
Congratulation, scared man..... Your mission to get PR by using your wife is already completed.... Now you are Free Man and a great Tax Payer in Canada..... WOW !!!!

lol i wish all man had a heart like yours, i read a post of u saying that ur wife works but u cant cuz ur inland app. and u feeling bad abt it.. i wish scared man can think this way and atleast make his wife happy by having a baby. i worked part-time as nurse, i am pregnant not working now plus my hubby is not with me, and he dont make enough to give me money and i never asked for, but when i go backhome he pays sometime i pay. But this man has a job and his wife work still he is freaking out about having a baby. Canada pays to go on maternity,parental leave unless some undeveloped country where ppl are mostly poor, how about those ppl they dont make kids?look at the starved kids in poor country like africa or my own home country, ur kid would never have to go trough this if he lives in canada still this man is paranoid.

Not making enough money to have atleast one kid when two person work and in canada, its a lame excuse to me.

 

[sunsun]

Thank you Shiny88...
You're pregnant and your hubby is not with you , this situation is very hard for you...... I wish all the best for you....