No need to be sorry @scylla . Your opinion is respected, as always.
I suppose I must accept that I am wrong in my view that, if someone in the OP's position can appeal to their spouse to hold off on calling off the sponsorship and the marriage, that is a reasonable course. It would seem, that the common view is that, if there are difficulties in a relationship where PR sponsorship is in the works, best to end it without trying to work things out, lest one be stuck with the 3-year financial obligation. Okay. I get it.
I suppose I must accept that I am wrong in my view that, if someone in the OP's position can appeal to their spouse to hold off on calling off the sponsorship and the marriage, that is a reasonable course. It would seem, that the common view is that, if there are difficulties in a relationship where PR sponsorship is in the works, best to end it without trying to work things out, lest one be stuck with the 3-year financial obligation. Okay. I get it.