please I seriously need help!!!

[Neenvin]

I recently found out that my husband had an affair when he was still in saudi and he got the girl pregnant. She is almost her due date and she asked my husband for a support. I told the girl that we are willing to support the baby and since she doesn't want anything to do with my husband after she gives birth, i told her if it's ok not to put my husband on the birth certificate(selfiSh) because I was thinking it will reject his application. she said ok with the condition.
However, what if she changed her mind and fill a support for the child? Can I still sponsor my husband while the case is going? If not, how long do I have to wait to sponsor him? Or in this case, what step should I do?

 

[sohaib1]

I recently found out that my husband had an affair when he was still in saudi and he got the girl pregnant. She is almost her due date and she asked my husband for a support. I told the girl that we are willing to support the baby and since she doesn't want anything to do with my husband after she gives birth, i told her if it's ok not to put my husband on the birth certificate(selfiSh) because I was thinking it will reject his application. she said ok with the condition.
However, what if she changed her mind and fill a support for the child? Can I still sponsor my husband while the case is going? If not, how long do I have to wait to sponsor him? Or in this case, what step should I do?

They are not married right? so problem would have occurred if he was married to that girl
The baby I don't think would cause a problem.
This is a complicated situation
Others please help

 

[Ponga]

If he knows for a fact that he is the father, he would need to mention the child in his application. Failure to do so could be seen as misrepresentation, because he needs to disclose (and possible declare) any children that he has.

Now...this would only be a problem if he knows for sure that he's the father.

 

[MaryLou6]

If he knows for a fact that he is the father, he would need to mention the child in his application. Failure to do so could be seen as misrepresentation, because he needs to disclose (and possible declare) any children that he has.

Now...this would only be a problem if he knows for sure that he's the father.

But if you apply before the child is born, you don't need to mention it on your application, is that right Ponga? However he will not be able to sponsor the child into Canada.

 

[Ponga]

But if you apply before the child is born, you don't need to mention it on your application, is that right Ponga? However he will not be able to sponsor the child into Canada.

No. If the child is born at anytime after the application has been received, and throughout the processing of the application (including the day that the person lands as a permanent resident), and the paternity is known to be the applicant, CIC must be notified.

Just because the mother omits the father's name from the birth certificate, doesn't change the fact that he is the father.

 

[Neenvin]

I didn't send his application yet because he's still fillinG them out. It seems that I could sponsor him right after we go through the legal case. does the mother of the baby has the right to deport my husband from Canada when he gets here?right now my husband doesn't have a job, will they base the support from my salary since i am the wife? He is in the philippines right now, anyone knows a lawyer number that i could ask regarding this situation?

 

[heshamkate]

Well it is illegal in Saudi to have an affair, they could face serious problems if this was found out. I am not sure how she even was able to get a birth certificate for the child without declaring the father. It is nearly impossible to do so... Well never-the-less it is best to be honest on the application. Unless the girl moved countries and is no longer in Saudi it would be very unlikely for her to ask for support as having a baby out of wedlock is punishable there.

 

[Neenvin]

Well it is illegal in Saudi to have an affair, they could face serious problems if this was found out. I am not sure how she even was able to get a birth certificate for the child without declaring the father. It is nearly impossible to do so... Well never-the-less it is best to be honest on the application. Unless the girl moved countries and is no longer in Saudi it would be very unlikely for her to ask for support as having a baby out of wedlock is punishable there.

I heard she can get a birth certificate even though there is no father to declare. it will say "unknown" under the father category if ever. her and my husband are in the philippines now and they are far away from each other. My only problem is, the mother might not let us to put the baby name on his application if he is proven the father. if they are both in the philippines already and saudi finds out, what is saudi going to do?

 

[Evadyrrehs]

I recently found out that my husband had an affair when he was still in saudi and he got the girl pregnant. She is almost her due date and she asked my husband for a support. I told the girl that we are willing to support the baby and since she doesn't want anything to do with my husband after she gives birth, i told her if it's ok not to put my husband on the birth certificate(selfiSh) because I was thinking it will reject his application. she said ok with the condition.
However, what if she changed her mind and fill a support for the child? Can I still sponsor my husband while the case is going? If not, how long do I have to wait to sponsor him? Or in this case, what step should I do?

I know there are cultural things going on here and all that but why would you want to sponsor him still? I doubt very much that this is the only time he had an "affair" on you and it probably won't be the last. There are many good men here in Canada right now that you could take your chances on some day rather than choosing a life with someone you can never trust. You say they are both in the Philippines right now but are far apart? I think you need to realize if you listen to liars and cheats you will always have troubles. Just my opinion .

 

[Aquakitty]

I know there are cultural things going on here and all that but why would you want to sponsor him still? I doubt very much that this is the only time he had an "affair" on you and it probably won't be the last. There are many good men here in Canada right now that you could take your chances on some day rather than choosing a life with someone you can never trust. You say they are both in the Philippines right now but are far apart? I think you need to realize if you listen to liars and cheats you will always have troubles. Just my opinion .

That's kinda what I was thinking, aside from that, if they put the truth and CIC found out about that it would look a lot like a marriage of convenience. If he has to put the child on the forms then they would see the birth date. I'm sure they can do the math. Ug a jobless dude having illegal affairs in other countries? sounds like a catch (not that it's any of my business).

 

[Ontariobat]

Glad someone else said what I was thinking. I wish you luck Neenvin. It's worth thinking about whether or not you still trust this person. You will also be responsible for him financially for the first several years he is here if he ends up on social assistance.

 

[Luna21]

Glad someone else said what I was thinking. I wish you luck Neenvin. It's worth thinking about whether or not you still trust this person. You will also be responsible for him financially for the first several years he is here if he ends up on social assistance.

I was thinking the same I'm so sorry for you Neenvin. I don't understand very well the cultural implications here, but I believe you should think it twice before bringing him here. I couldn't imagine what you're going through, being apart from our spouses is hard enough.

 

[irvah]

Dear Neenvin,

I think the only way how to solve the problem is to postpone an application for a year or two. It is not easy but better than apply now in your situation.

During this time you can see how situation is going on, if the girl will indicate him as the farther of the baby, if he will be willing to help the child and if he will still want to stay with you.

I am really sorry for you but the situation will either keeps your marriage alive or breaks it.

You might somehow try to live with him at least for 6 months to a year. If your marriage will go through all obstacles without divorce, immigration should accept so challenging situationas as well.