Hey thanks alot Mumble, Maple, and Waiting!!
So happy to help you, Maple. Mumble- I'm definitely doing good, Thanks! I barely came on here the last month though. I was crazy busy with my bros wedding. And just right after, I got my visa!
Just thought I'd share my story with you all. I have been away from my hubby for the past 1 year. Yes, we applied late. He had just moved to TO..and didn't even have a job. It took him a good 4 months to find a decent job. I applied for Canadian visa thrice- rejected all the three times. The first hit was the worst, when I hadn't done any home work. I had traveled alot. Refusal was never on my mind. I had packed my bags and booked my tickets for the very day I was to receive my passport...and a refusal letter to the country that I want to move to and where my husband lives was unacceptable. That was the worst time ever in the whole year. My health deteriorated. My husband came down though only for a week, but that helped a great deal. I started to feel better. We applied again. Refused. We then filed in our PR application, which was a task in itself, considering that I had to send PCCs from 2 other countries besides India. Anyhow, applied for TRV again, only to be refused again! Living without my husband got easier now, knowing that it's only a matter of time until I see him again.
I had to do something, something to get my mind off this. It always was, but I needed something to put it on the backburner and appreciate what I have now. Most of you, I know live with their own parents and families. I lived with my inlaws all along..as my family lives outside India. It wasn't always easy. But every morning I'd tell myself that I am gonna be busy with something, anything that is. I'm gonna make the most of my day. There is no denial that my inlaws are awesome people...but some days were very umm meh . Some obligations get difficult, especially when you dont have your partner or job or anything going on for you. You begin to wonder where is your life heading, while the world is moving insanely fast! It scared me and drove me crazy. But I overcame all that. We all do under pressure. We develop such extraordinary patience, endurance and persistence under pressure that it's unbelievable! We get stronger by each day because thats the only option we have..isn't it?
I'm really happy I got the visa, which I thought would take really long time. I was prepared. I thought my case was "complicated". I was fed that I have travel history, which is the root cause of delays or declines! Second, I have lived in the middle east for a long time too. Third, I was once refused Canadian PR as a dependent. Fourth, I had sent Indian PCC from the Indian consulate in NZ...because the regional passport office/commissioners office/CID office in Bombay would not issue me one as my passport was issued outside the country. Isn't that crazy? What rights do I have as a citizen of this country? So yea my case was so complicated it could take forever to process. Dont wanna take no names, but I just want to request members not to stir tension on the forum with false information. Every case is different, every visa officer is different. Sooner or later you're going to be with your partners. Just hang in there!
And a certain thing I tell you guys-All this cursing, waiting and laughing at your own misery disappears the minute you see your address change. It's one of the best feelings you'd ever have. I can't remember my tears....I don't want to.
Very few things are worth the wait..yea!
Thankyou everyone for helping me through this journey!
