My Wife is Delaying my sponsorship!!

[Sid UK]

Hi. Need advice Plz:
Me and my wife started a common-law relationship 13 years ago, and she came to live with me in UK for a year.
She then convinced me to move with her back to Ontario which I did. I brought over vast amount of money and bought a lovely large house (in her name with a mortgage on her name). We had a child together. I have financially supported her for years. I bought 3 more investment properties in Ontario (again in her name as I was not legal).
I always commuted back and forth between UK and Canada so as not to overstay my visa.
She has been stringing me along for many years about my sponsorship application.

When she's in the mood she is all go go go about it. I had all my medicals done, x-rays, and police reports prepared, but they always end up lapsing (they are only valid for one year).
£ years ago, we got legally married in the USA whilst on vacation. We came back and started the process again.
But she never mailed off the forms!
In the meantime, I discovered to my HORROR that she and her brother have sold off my investment properties and lost the money. Even our marital home had been remortgaged to the hilt!!
After much family meetings and peacekeeping efforts, she apologised and promised to process the application speedily (as I do not want to miss out on my child growing up).
I left in Sept last year to return to UK for a few months for work stuff, and signed all the papers again on the last day. All blood reports, xrays, etc., were included. BUT, she hasnt sent them off still.
Suddenly she is not even taking my calls or texting back saying she's real busy at work, etc. My blood reports, etc., will all expire yet again in 4 weeks!!
I have lost hundreds of thousands of dollars, spent 13 years without being able to work, or even buy a car on my name. Yet I have put up with this, believing her lies all along.
Can I sue her in some way?
WHAT DO I DO?
Please help, as I see no other way out than just ending it all for me now.... The enormity of what she has taken from me has caused heart trouble now too.
I am in my early 40's.

 

[tavora]

Unfortunately, I don't think you can sue her for not sponsoring you and stringing you along .. The sponsor has to agree to the undertaking, which means she agrees she will support you and provide for all your basic needs for three years, regardless of what happens to the relationship. If she won't agree to the terms, then I don't think you have much recourse.

Is there any way you could qualify to immigrate under one of the other categories? You do have a child together, (who is a Canadian citizen) but s/he cannot sponsor you until s/he turns 18.

 

[Leon]

Unfortunately you put everything in her name which gave her the opportunity to do with it what she wanted. She is not under any obligation to sponsor you. People who have no status in Canada are also allowed to buy property so you could have put it in your name. I think you were badly advised.

Even if you could sue her, what would you sue her for? Even if you could prove that although her name was on everything, it was common property and you put up the money for it and she should pay you back, what is she going to pay you with if she has spent all the money now?

Look for another way to immigrate. If you are able to get a job offer, you could try for a work permit and immigrate later.

 

[scylla]

You cannot sue her for failing to sponsor you. She is under no obligation to sponsor you.

You may have some legal recourse when it comes to the money. Best to consult with a lawyer.

Good luck.

 

[xxpazaway]

Hi. Need advice Plz:
Me and my wife started a common-law relationship 13 years ago, and she came to live with me in UK for a year.
She then convinced me to move with her back to Ontario which I did. I brought over vast amount of money and bought a lovely large house (in her name with a mortgage on her name). We had a child together. I have financially supported her for years. I bought 3 more investment properties in Ontario (again in her name as I was not legal).
I always commuted back and forth between UK and Canada so as not to overstay my visa.
She has been stringing me along for many years about my sponsorship application.

When she's in the mood she is all go go go about it. I had all my medicals done, x-rays, and police reports prepared, but they always end up lapsing (they are only valid for one year).
£ years ago, we got legally married in the USA whilst on vacation. We came back and started the process again.
But she never mailed off the forms!
In the meantime, I discovered to my HORROR that she and her brother have sold off my investment properties and lost the money. Even our marital home had been remortgaged to the hilt!!
After much family meetings and peacekeeping efforts, she apologised and promised to process the application speedily (as I do not want to miss out on my child growing up).
I left in Sept last year to return to UK for a few months for work stuff, and signed all the papers again on the last day. All blood reports, xrays, etc., were included. BUT, she hasnt sent them off still.
Suddenly she is not even taking my calls or texting back saying she's real busy at work, etc. My blood reports, etc., will all expire yet again in 4 weeks!!
I have lost hundreds of thousands of dollars, spent 13 years without being able to work, or even buy a car on my name. Yet I have put up with this, believing her lies all along.
Can I sue her in some way?
WHAT DO I DO?
Please help, as I see no other way out than just ending it all for me now.... The enormity of what she has taken from me has caused heart trouble now too.
I am in my early 40's.

Not to judge your wife but i think she dont want to sponsor u. If you still want her to continue this sponsorship thing try to come to Canada and finish the sponsorship application with her and personally send it to cic, that time she wont have any issue at all sending it.
Sorry but i really hate those kind of people, using other people.

 

[blessedelaine]

Sorry but having read what you just posted.. She is a user! Very unfortunate of you.. 13 years is too long enough for you not to know her deeply. Im so sorry to hear this story of yours.

I strongly believe you cant sue her. You put ALL your TRUST to a wrong person..