Love or Opportunity? Coffee Social

[Halfmoon]

Ok everyone........the party venue has moved today!!!!


http://www.canadavisa.com/canada-immigration-discussion-board/grunds-for-immediate-cancellation-of-a-pr-application-t127162.15.html


Caution: Posters may experience high winds

I gues this can be tossed out!!

Everyone the party is back over here now!!!

 

[parker24]

I gues this can be tossed out!!

Everyone the party is back over here now!!!

Those big red letters don't look so good from a distance haha (I'm front desk of a slow office, but right next door is a real estate place. Got a strange look when I turned around to get a pen and turn back and see the big red letter HAHAHAHAH)

 

[Halfmoon]

Those big red letters don't look so good from a distance haha (I'm front desk of a slow office, but right next door is a real estate place. Got a strange look when I turned around to get a pen and turn back and see the big red letter HAHAHAHAH)

HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

Yeh that would be hard to hide if the boss happens to suddenly walk into my office.

:-[

 

[parker24]

HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

Yeh that would be hard to hide if the boss happens to suddenly walk into my office.

:-[

I can picture it hahaha

 

[Halfmoon]

Gone to grab a bite....

 

[lunas]

I don't care about my breath today : I'm having coffee! and we had a Keurig machine at work, makes it a little better tasting

 

[Koukla74]

I am so new to this... I agree with your open conversation "Halfmoon". How do you know when it a marriage is true! I am glad you have found the love of your life. I am a sponsor but with my husbands behaviors, I feel I am going through a marriage of convenience. My heart is broken into two.

 

[saint4peace]

koukla74: Really!?! Now it is time to do some 'research' on your relationship with your husband. I am NOT discouraging your relation but as you said, please sit with him in person and talk about your doubt before he comes into Canada. Talk with your good friends and family as well. It will help to determine your situation. if you doubt, it should be removed soon, positive or negative!

 

[lunas]

I am so new to this... I agree with your open conversation "Halfmoon". How do you know when it a marriage is true! I am glad you have found the love of your life. I am a sponsor but with my husbands behaviors, I feel I am going through a marriage of convenience. My heart is broken into two.

Hey Koukla, I hope you know what you are doing and the repercussions it could cause you if your husband ends up leaving you.

 

[amikety]

I am so new to this... I agree with your open conversation "Halfmoon". How do you know when it a marriage is true! I am glad you have found the love of your life. I am a sponsor but with my husbands behaviors, I feel I am going through a marriage of convenience. My heart is broken into two.

Does your husband use "our" statements when discussing the future or "my" statements?

Does he push you to sign immigration papers?

Does he only want to talk when you beg him?

Does he have a child with another woman or ex-wife?

Did he become interested in you after he found out you're Canadian?

Was one of the first things you discussed was your country?

Did he push for a fast marriage? (Anything less than two years.)

Do you send him money?

What job skills does he have?

Has he ever been to Canada? Does he happen to be a failed refugee claimant?

Does he agree with your future plans (i. e. number of kids) without much discussion, argument, or concern?

 

[Merlyns_Tim]

Re: Is it Love or Opportunity?

To be totally honest, I actually elluded to this early in our relationship not because I thought my husband wasn't genuine but I had a great business concept to start in his home country where we could merge both our passions together. He was pretty excited at the thought and said, Let's do it! LOL .... I then thought, oh boy, I just got him excited about me moving there .... All in all, it didn't matter where we lived as long as we could build our lives together.

But def a good point..

My wife asked so may times if I could move there instead, and when you hear that, you just know it's not that they want to leave all they have behind just to be in Canada, .. but rather that as long as you're together no matter if the Philippines or Canada, all they want is to be family with you. Financial obligations keep me here, but I'd have just as happily moved there to be with her if all things were equal.
Sadly most of the images we see of the Philippines are of flood and earth quake victims, .. but there are also some areas of the Philippines you would never leave if you didn't have to.

 

[Halfmoon]

Hey Koukla and Merlyns Tim!! Welcome to our wonderful Ladies Coffee Social. Pull up a chair there are so many wonderful members on here.

I'd love to take up "love and opportunity" topic in deeper discussion when I get home this evening.

Sorry just getting prepared to head out to our Christmas party.

Ladies and Tuyen, be good, lots of smileys until I'm home tonight.

Muah!!! xoxoxoxo

 

[Halfmoon]

koukla74: Really!?! Now it is time to do some 'research' on your relationship with your husband. I am NOT discouraging your relation but as you said, please sit with him in person and talk about your doubt before he comes into Canada. Talk with your good friends and family as well. It will help to determine your situation. if you doubt, it should be removed soon, positive or negative!

Saint4peace!!! Howdie!! 8)

 

[Halfmoon]

I am so new to this... I agree with your open conversation "Halfmoon". How do you know when it a marriage is true! I am glad you have found the love of your life. I am a sponsor but with my husbands behaviors, I feel I am going through a marriage of convenience. My heart is broken into two.

If you're comfortable speaking openly here, we'd love to hear about what's going on and hopefully help or give you our thoughts. If you're not comfortable, you can inbox any one of the members including myself if you'd prefer some one on one chat.

Talk soon.....

 

[Merlyns_Tim]

From a male perspective, ...

Get to know the other person well before going where ever they are with plans to marry (I knew my own wife very well through several hours of chat every day for about a year).

Know about their friends and family. If they're interested in you for the right reasons they wont be able to wait for you to get there so they can take you around to meet everyone.
On the other hand if they don't want to introduce you around I'd find that very fishy and wonder why they don't want you to know the people that mean a lot to them.

In some cases I'd find it concerning if I'm 61 and a 25 year old hot little thing is putting the moves on me. What 25 year old wants to get intimate with someone who's old enough to be her dad, ... especially on a long term basis?
So many old guys get sucked in by that. In some cases it might be a genuine attraction, .. but in 999 out of 1,000, .. I think not

If you want extra closeness make sure the partners spiritual beliefs are close to your own, .. or at least that you can live with what the other believes without expecting them to change for you. If it does happen it sure wont be over night . ;D