I thought I would start a conversation about the way we fight... It is important because as many are getting ready to begin forever this will be critical.
When you are angry with hubby how much control do you have over expressing your truth? Does the augment get so heated that you wish you could take back the things you said when it is over? How does he communicate, is he an introvert, hates conflicts, confrontational etc. You don't have to share details but be honest. How do you see yourself in terms of emotional strength? What drives you nuts... and how do you relate this to your partner? And this is a biggie "if you knew your significant other would just disappear days, months, years after you've been through this process, would you do anything different" I asked a friend the last question recently because she is planning to get married to someone in Jamaica.. I told her that sometimes we have to take risks but when she asked me if I thought it was a good idea I replied "it does not matter what I think, the question is do you think he is worth the risk? Just a little chat to pass the time.
I fight dirty..below the belt, hubby keeps things inside.. passive aggressive. But when I go in for the juggler he says words I never heard him say. In seven years prior to being here I never heard him swear but every now and then a mumma-dressa-punny-juice slips out. I love it! He said I don't stop provoke him cause I want to see him angry. The thing is I knew he had it in him.. just pretending, can only do this for so long.. play the nice guy that is. Don't respond if you don't wish to participate. I don't want to hear how in-love and perfect your marriage is. Just stirring up the big "women"...big woman tings.
