Erina said:
Well basically his permission is one of the many reasons we have and we have mentioned in the letter. The fact is that I'm currently financially dependent to family and a student also, but moving out when partner gets PR and he'll contribute financially as well, so in that case I don't give a *censored word* for parental permission anymore, I've had enough and I do believe in marriage and want to marry my love of life.
I'm going to give you one last bit of advice, and you're free to listen to it, or ignore it completely. I'm saying this in all seriousness, and not doing it to make fun of you or to give you a hard time.
My recommendation is to withdraw your application and really REALLY give some serious thought as to where you want your life to go in the next few years. The reason I'm saying this is because everything right now is working AGAINST you, and you have a better chance of winning the lottery than to get your boyfriend into Canada within the next 5 years. Here are the facts:
- you're not old enough and mature enough to be married
- you still depend on your parents for everything
- your boyfriend lives in a country that is currently the number one state-sponsor of terrorism in the world
When the CIC will process your application, they will see all of these things, just as easily as I can see them. They see a young girl who is unable (or unwilling) to live her own life and depends heavily on her parents. This means you're in absolutely no position to sponsor anybody because you have no income due to the fact that you're still a student. They look at the person you're trying to sponsor, and you know what they see? A potential threat to national security. They see a guy (probably in his early 20s) who appears to be trying to find an easy ticket to the West from a country which has made it one of its primary goals to export fanaticism - exactly the kind of person that sets off red flags and alarm bells not only at CIC, but also at CSIS.
Is that a fair assessment? From your point of view, definitely not. But from the CIC's point of view, those are the facts with which they've been presented, and your application will be based on those facts. If your boyfriend was from a completely different part of the world, you would STILL have a very difficult time getting your application approved because of your current situation. But the fact that he's from Iran just makes it about a million times more unlikely that your application will be approved, ESPECIALLY given the fact that the CIC sees that you're unable or unwilling to be married to him. From their point of view, it's a high-risk case of immigration fraud under the best of circumstances, and a potential threat to national security under the worst of circumstances.
Canada has already had its Royal Family of terrorism in the form of the Khadr family. The last thing the government wants now is to have a repeat performance. And because of that, your boyfriend will always undergo far heavier scrutiny during any immigration process. Even if he's a completely non-violent, peace-loving hippie, it doesn't change the fact that in simple terms, he's trying to get a ticket to Canada through you. And for that reason, you too will be under scrutiny because CIC will need to determine if you're a knowing and willing accomplice in this scheme, or if you're simply a girl who's in love with a guy that happens to live in a very unfortunate part of the world right now.
You have four basic options at this point:
1) continue with your application, despite everything working against you
2) ask yourself whether you really want to live the next several years of your life in a state of limbo and uncertainty
3) move to Iran, give up all your freedoms and privileges as a Canadian, and do whatever is necessary to be with him
4) have him flee Iran and try to get refugee status, either in Canada or any European country
If you choose the first route, your application stands an infinitesimal chance of being approved. In the very likely event that it gets rejected, it will work against you in the future if you try applying a second time with a failed application already in your file.
The second option would be what I would strongly advise you to do. I know from personal experience that it's very painful to be apart from someone you love, but you need to face the very real possibility that he will never be allowed into Canada UNLESS his country undergoes a very major and dramatic change in government...and even then, it could still take 10-20 years for all the dust to settle and for other nations to see Iran as a friend rather than a foe. And in the meantime, you'll be living out some of the best years of your life fighting what may ultimately be a battle that can't be won. Are you prepared for that on an emotional level? What about him? Are you 100% certain that he's as committed to you as you are to him? Or is he running around in Iran right now with a girl that you don't even know about? And even if he's still completely faithful to you today, what about two or three years from now while you're still fighting to get him sponsored? Are you prepared for the possibility that one day he will tell you that this is simply too difficult for him and he can't do it anymore because he wants to have a wife and children that he could be with tomorrow as opposed to who-knows-when?
The third option would be an act of insanity, so I won't even go into it.
The fourth and final option may be your last hope, and based on your circumstances, I would say it stands a better chance of succeeding than your conjugal sponsorship. It would by no means be easy, and would very likely mean that you would continue to be apart for the foreseeable future, but at least there's SOME hope there.
Your situation, unfortunately, is a very complex one which has too many obstacles blocking nearly every possible path. For that reason, I would strongly encourage you to give some serious thought as to how you want the next several years of your life to unfold. Regardless of what you choose to do, I wish you the best of luck.
