Connundrum

[Alesmus]

Greetings all, this is my first time posting but I've been reading around the past few weeks.

Lets see, where to start.... Last year, I met the love of my life, of this I am sure. She is Canadian, I am not. We are planning to get together by the end of the year/start of next year. I know I want to be with her for the rest of my life, so obviously I want to go there to Canada, because I know english(I learned both English and Spanish at the same time when I was still a kid), but she hasn't the least bit knowledge of spanish, so I can't bring her here. So, I was wondering, what are my chances of being able to stay there? I know they need proof of our relationship, but we have been together physically for a minimal amount, how would I go about proving that I really do love her, more than anything in this world? Another issue is that I am the working one, she still lives with her parents, so how would I get about making us both survive when I won't be able to allowed to work? And a final question, we both want children, so if she got pregnant by me, would I still be deported, forcing her to support herself and the child alone? Would they have no consideration for the child having a father?

Now, I hope this doesn't come out badly, I truely love her, and want to be with her until the end of my days, I want us to have children and grow old together, so I am want to do anything I reasonably can for them to allow us to be together. I don't need Canada, I could be anywhere with her, but that is simply the place I want to stay because it would be much easier for her, not to have to change her life drastically.

I hope people can comprehend what I am going through, and hopefully help me, because it would be much appreciated. The bond we share is a once in a lifetime thing(Yes, I know this may sound childish, and perhaps I am a hopeless romantic, but I truely mean every word I said.)

EDIT: If there is no chance of being accepted, I would rather be told so now, so I can start planning of bringing her over here, hopefully start learning spanish. Or perhaps both move to a completely different country.

 

[RobsLuv]

Greetings all, this is my first time posting but I've been reading around the past few weeks.

Lets see, where to start.... Last year, I met the love of my life, of this I am sure. She is Canadian, I am not. We are planning to get together by the end of the year/start of next year. I know I want to be with her for the rest of my life, so obviously I want to go there to Canada, because I know english(I learned both English and Spanish at the same time when I was still a kid), but she hasn't the least bit knowledge of spanish, so I can't bring her here. So, I was wondering, what are my chances of being able to stay there? I know they need proof of our relationship, but we have been together physically for a minimal amount, how would I go about proving that I really do love her, more than anything in this world?

Marry her. That makes you eligible to be sponsored by her for permanent residence in Canada. The only other option for her to sponsor you is if you establish a common-law partnership - which involves co-habitating for at least one continuous year and being able to prove it. That won't be so easy because, you don't say where you're from, but chances are good that you'll be allowed to stay in Canada for - at the very most - only six months.

Another issue is that I am the working one, she still lives with her parents, so how would I get about making us both survive when I won't be able to allowed to work?

Not a lot of options there either until you become a PR. You could apply for a restricted work permit, but that needs to be done from outside Canada, and you have to find an employer who is willing to hire you, and that employer has to get approval from the Canadian gov't to do that, and then they offer you the job and you apply for the work permit. Kind of a long process with no guarantees.

And a final question, we both want children, so if she got pregnant by me, would I still be deported, forcing her to support herself and the child alone? Would they have no consideration for the child having a father?

Don't even go there. They've seen it plenty of times before and it doesn't fly. In short, no, they have no compassion or consideration when it comes to separating families. If you try to stay in Canada illegally - especially by trying to manipulate the system that way - you'll be the one who regrets it.

Now, I hope this doesn't come out badly, I truely love her, and want to be with her until the end of my days, I want us to have children and grow old together, so I am want to do anything I reasonably can for them to allow us to be together. I don't need Canada, I could be anywhere with her, but that is simply the place I want to stay because it would be much easier for her, not to have to change her life drastically.

I hope people can comprehend what I am going through, and hopefully help me, because it would be much appreciated. The bond we share is a once in a lifetime thing(Yes, I know this may sound childish, and perhaps I am a hopeless romantic, but I truely mean every word I said.)

Again, then do it the "right" way - meaning the way that qualifies you to be sponsored for permanent residence in Canada so that you can have a life together. The "fastest" way is to get married - but don't do it just to get into Canada. They'll figure it out and you'll be refused.

 

[Alesmus]

Don't even go there. They've seen it plenty of times before and it doesn't fly. In short, no, they have no compassion or consideration when it comes to separating families. If you try to stay in Canada illegally - especially by trying to manipulate the system that way - you'll be the one who regrets it.

I am sorry it sounded like that, I have no care if the country is Canada, Nigeria or Russia, I just want to be with her, I want her to be the mother of my children, and if such is the case, I would rather bring here over here than allow her to have to fend for herself while pregnant.

 

[rachel6992]

Alesmus, where are you from? If you guys get married, you could apply outland. It's not as long as you might think (though when you're in love it feels like an eternity!).

Good luck!

 

[BeShoo]

You need to get married first, then apply, wait till they process that (could be 6 months to 2 years, more or less, depending how fast your local office is), and then move to Canada. Having a baby will not really have a bearing on your legal status one way or the other. It's not likely to increase your chances of staying in Canada above not having a baby, so I would want to be careful not to get her pregnant if I were you.

Beyond that, there's not much we can say without knowing your country of citizenship and country of residence.

 

[Alesmus]

I am from Chile, South America.

And we have decided first we are gonna do a couple extra visits to gather proof, but with the income we have, it is going to be terribly painful to be away so long between visits.

 

[BeShoo]

Well, the office in Santiago is extremely fast compared to most, with 80% of applications being processed in 3 to 6 months last year, so I really think that is the route to go. You probably won't manage to live together for one continuous year unless your girlfriend can somehow get a visa for Chile for a whole year. If you can come up with proof that living together is not really possible, you have already been functioning as a married couple for over a year, and you have no present intentions to marry, you might be able to apply in the "conjugal partner" class, but I don't really think you'll succeed at that. Again it seems that getting married before applying is really the best route.