Firstly, this isn’t silly, don’t think you’re wasting anyone’s time here. This is a real situation involving real people. You need some guidance and here you’ll get a few opinions and they’ll all be a little different. They could help shape the next few months, even years of your life. It’s good to share your concerns, it can’t hurt you, only help.
Her threatening to report you for marriage fraud, is one of the reasons IRCC scrapped the requirement for spouses to live together for two years after landing. When that rule was in place, if you lived apart in those two years, it’d trigger and investigation and possible revocation of the sponsored person’s status. That then means deportation. The primary reason IRCC scrapped that requirement, is that they were concerned that sponsored spouses were staying in abusive relationships due to fear of deportation. This situation and your wife’s threats, to me, seem like abuse. Spouses should not threaten each other for any reason. Her threats are out of line.
Keep all correspondence between each other. They demonstrate her contrasting behaviour and give you evidence of her threats. I can’t see how, in the event of an IRCC investigation, they would side with a sponsor who has been threatening their sponsored spouse. If anything, it sounds like you need the support and possible protection of IRCC, not her. Your behaviour shouldn’t be cause for her to act like this. If, however, you’ve mistreated her, threatened her, done anything that could cause the police to get involved, then you will have to explain that if an investigation takes place. It could be held against you and you won’t have any cause for complaint. If you’ve just disagreed on things, and had the usual disputes that couples have, you’ve done nothing wrong. It doesn’t justify her behaviour.
She seems insecure about your ex wife and daughter. Maybe if you and your wife can work things out, giving her reassurances about your existing family would help her.
Anyone sponsored to come to countries like Canada will face skepticism about their intentions and whether they used the Canadian to just come to the country. Don’t worry about that. The only opinions that matter are those of the IRCC officer that assessed your application. They were happy, application was approved. End of story.
If you do end up with separation and divorce, that alone is not grounds for you losing your status. Some marriages don’t work out. IRCC understand that.
If she accuses you of marriage fraud, be prepared for it. Gather contrary evidence and defend yourself. Let the powers of be decide.
In the time-being, as the previous poster said, if you can support yourself, give Canada a chance. You’re legally here, and have every right to get on with your life. If you just want to move back to South Africa, you can do that too. It’s your choice, no-one else’s.
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