additional family information question

[minna]

ok...this question needs some backstory. My partner's parents are divorced since he was a child (from each other) and both remarried, but my partner is estranged from his father, and his dad has been separated from his current wife for years. His father's current wife has kids from a previous marriage (technically my partner's step-brother and step-sister), but my partner was an adult by the time his father remarried, and no longer living in his home town and although he's met the step brother and sister a few times, they've never been close, in any way shape or form. I don't even think that my partner's step-mother ever more than very partial custody of those kids - they lived with their father.

I know the step brother and sister need to be included on the form, but honestly we know very little about their lives now. His step-sister ran away from home as a teenager - pretty much just dissapeared - and to our knowledge, has not been in touch with either her mother (my partner's step-mother) since. We have no idea if she's even still alive. My partner's step-brother has been in and out of jail for years, and last we heard, had a baby with his current girlfriend, but we have no idea where they live. My partner's father never treated these kids like his own, or had much to do with them -and he is an extreme alcoholic, who really can't be relied on for much of anything in the way of useful information.

We know their names, but that's about it. I've looked them up on google, and found nothing. My partner's mother doesn't really know them either, having met them only a couple of times.

Anybody have any advice for dealing with them on the forms?? Can I include a note explaining why we don't know their birth dates or current addresses?? That my partner really does not know these people at all? I thought my partner's father would be able to provide some of this information, but he hasn't been returning our phonecalls since we told him that I am pregnant, and we have no idea what's going on with him these days -- like I said, my partner is really not at all close with his father.

Any suggestions??

 

[iarblue]

I would include their names and birthdates if you know them if not put a question mark.For their place of birth put the country and town if you know it if not a question mark.Same with marital status and oresent address.Then if there is question marks attach a note stating exactly what you wrote here.If you dont know them you dont know them there is nothing you can do but explain it.
Include that you did a name search and couldnt find any info on them..

 

[canadianwoman]

Yes, I agree. Include them, and all the information you know. Then attach a note explaining the situation.

 

[minna]

yes , this is exactly what I did. I was able to get a bit more information from my partner's sister, who still lives in the same town as them, so hears more about them, and occasionally bumps into them etc. I left a few blanks just as "unknown" and attached a note explaining why.

thanks, you two.