Girl these are rare incidences that have nothing to do with sending a child to Canada, but everything to do with the people they were sent with. I personally would never just send a child if I was in that situation until spending a fair bit of time getting to know the step-parent and I would have to already be assured of the father.
Its like anything in life...there is bad people everywhere. You hear stories of death, murder, negligent homicide, terrible accidents from carelessness, torture....EVERYWHERE. It can happen to someone random from some one random, it can happen to children by parents, to partners from another partner....etc etc. There is no one circumstance where it happens to a certian person by a certian person more often....its just there are some evil people in this world.
I always say one must excercise judment in who we allow in our lives, who we go around, where we go and at what hours of day or night. We must exercise judgment in who we allow our children around, where we allow our children to go, what circumstances we allow them to live in, who we let babysit them, where we send them to school etc etc.
I'm extremly protective of my daughter...extremly. She is probably the most well cared for child in the world! If I ever had to let her live with someone else...well I can't even go there because I don't know if I'd be capable of doing that!
I think if any mother is ever afraid to send their child abroad...it should be because she has reason to doubt the father and stepmother in particular...not just a general assumption based on others experiences! I don't think its at all fair to assume sending a child with a step parent and father is going to end badly. You know I know off the top of my head quite a few step parents who are raising children from the islands and treat them like the most precious people in the world, which they are. I have a friend in BC who raises her stepchildren and she is mommy to them and you would never even know that some of the kids are hers biologically and some arn't...they are all treated equal. I know MANY step parents who put in MUCH time and effort to take on their step children, raise them and give them a life. So come on ladies...seriously...lets not disrespect all the great women...AND ALL THE GREAT MEN who took on their stepchildren and raised them as their own. Lets not disrespect them by assuming all step parents are going to abuse their stepchildren because it has happened before. I kinda take offense to that. There are so many good people that have made huge sacrifices to raise their step children. And many of them have silently put up with abusive baby mothers in the process...and never let that stop them from doing right by the child.
I've heard of plenty of biological mothers who've done terrible things to their kids...like a lady in Jamaica not to long ago that kill all her kids and then herself. Or mothers that abandon their children, stuff in the news about a lady whose son was taken from her after she was found beating his head into a brick wall as punishment. A lady I saw at the beach the other day who beat her son so hard for not hearing her the first time she called that she left bruised hand prints all over his body, and was kicking him to. This doesnt mean ever mother is the world is bad...so therefor not every step parent is either.
Its like anything in life...there is bad people everywhere. You hear stories of death, murder, negligent homicide, terrible accidents from carelessness, torture....EVERYWHERE. It can happen to someone random from some one random, it can happen to children by parents, to partners from another partner....etc etc. There is no one circumstance where it happens to a certian person by a certian person more often....its just there are some evil people in this world.
I always say one must excercise judment in who we allow in our lives, who we go around, where we go and at what hours of day or night. We must exercise judgment in who we allow our children around, where we allow our children to go, what circumstances we allow them to live in, who we let babysit them, where we send them to school etc etc.
I'm extremly protective of my daughter...extremly. She is probably the most well cared for child in the world! If I ever had to let her live with someone else...well I can't even go there because I don't know if I'd be capable of doing that!
I think if any mother is ever afraid to send their child abroad...it should be because she has reason to doubt the father and stepmother in particular...not just a general assumption based on others experiences! I don't think its at all fair to assume sending a child with a step parent and father is going to end badly. You know I know off the top of my head quite a few step parents who are raising children from the islands and treat them like the most precious people in the world, which they are. I have a friend in BC who raises her stepchildren and she is mommy to them and you would never even know that some of the kids are hers biologically and some arn't...they are all treated equal. I know MANY step parents who put in MUCH time and effort to take on their step children, raise them and give them a life. So come on ladies...seriously...lets not disrespect all the great women...AND ALL THE GREAT MEN who took on their stepchildren and raised them as their own. Lets not disrespect them by assuming all step parents are going to abuse their stepchildren because it has happened before. I kinda take offense to that. There are so many good people that have made huge sacrifices to raise their step children. And many of them have silently put up with abusive baby mothers in the process...and never let that stop them from doing right by the child.
I've heard of plenty of biological mothers who've done terrible things to their kids...like a lady in Jamaica not to long ago that kill all her kids and then herself. Or mothers that abandon their children, stuff in the news about a lady whose son was taken from her after she was found beating his head into a brick wall as punishment. A lady I saw at the beach the other day who beat her son so hard for not hearing her the first time she called that she left bruised hand prints all over his body, and was kicking him to. This doesnt mean ever mother is the world is bad...so therefor not every step parent is either.
