HELLO.
I need some solid advice of what to do and for a good lawyer. I am a Canadian Citiizen, born and raised who married to a man from Iran in 2007. HE became a PR in 2009. 3 years is done in 2012. I want a divorce, but as we were not living in Canada together yet, I moved because our PR process was taking to long. So i am non resident of Canada now and he is in ontario as of December 2010. I know under the divorce act we have to wait 1 years of residency in canada which is fine. That one year would be in Jan 2012. From what I have read so far, is it true I can get a divorce official before the 3 years support time for spouse is done? I know I have to continue supporting him in canada until that date.
We had an informal agreement since I have been the complete financial backer for his last 3 years of university, (which his family completely dumped on me within 2 months of being married, which was never the plan as we had discussed before marriage, and this was all outside of Canada). Anyways since I had been the sole breadwinner, when he graduated and was ready to come to Canada, he said he doesn't want any more money from me at all so we informally agreed that my contrbution to the marriage thus far was way more they it was supposed to be, as I had to pay my own student loans. SO I stopped giving him money as he entered Canada in December as he is living with his brothers. Well I received a letter just now that got lost in the mail that he went ahead and applied for social assistance this past Jan., and never bothered to tell me. I know that I am contractly obligated to support him until 2012, but is he still allowed to claim social assistance when he is living for free with family? I just feel like I have been played, from the the push from his family in Canada for us to get married much sooner then planned because they said immigration would take so long with him being from Iran, to all of a sudden they quit supporting him for university when we had all discussed that it wouldn't be my responsibility since he was in university already when I met him, and that when he came to Canada after graduation that yes ofcourse any further schooling would be mine.
Now that things went horribly sour with us, I can see that his money craved family were the ones who told him to apply for social assistance and he is going on their recommendations. He has agreed to cancel the social assistance, and I want to get a seperation agreement right away to protect myself until the 3 year end date and for whenever I can get a final divorce. I feel him going on social assistance, in which I know he did not need to go on it at all was out of advice from him family and spite to try and ruin chances of me ever meeting someone else and possibly re-marry again as I have left canada. So long winded way of asking: anyone know a good lawyer in Toronto? And now what is a specific amount I would need to still send him until this 3 year term is done. I have given about 40,000 over the last two years for his school, rent, life , etc...I assumed foolishly that I had done my part when his family dumped it on me, I assumed under good faith they would take care of their family member for this last year, as I know they can afford. I am just trying to figure out how to protect myself. This should be the easiest divorce as we have no ties, assests, properties, rrsps etc, as I got rid of everything when I left canada 3 years ago. All we have tied together is our marriage contract from Iran. I have gone from meeting I thought the love of my life who I was ready to do anything for,, packed up my life in Canada to be with him, to feeling like I have been tricked.
Any words of advice?
Thanks
I need some solid advice of what to do and for a good lawyer. I am a Canadian Citiizen, born and raised who married to a man from Iran in 2007. HE became a PR in 2009. 3 years is done in 2012. I want a divorce, but as we were not living in Canada together yet, I moved because our PR process was taking to long. So i am non resident of Canada now and he is in ontario as of December 2010. I know under the divorce act we have to wait 1 years of residency in canada which is fine. That one year would be in Jan 2012. From what I have read so far, is it true I can get a divorce official before the 3 years support time for spouse is done? I know I have to continue supporting him in canada until that date.
We had an informal agreement since I have been the complete financial backer for his last 3 years of university, (which his family completely dumped on me within 2 months of being married, which was never the plan as we had discussed before marriage, and this was all outside of Canada). Anyways since I had been the sole breadwinner, when he graduated and was ready to come to Canada, he said he doesn't want any more money from me at all so we informally agreed that my contrbution to the marriage thus far was way more they it was supposed to be, as I had to pay my own student loans. SO I stopped giving him money as he entered Canada in December as he is living with his brothers. Well I received a letter just now that got lost in the mail that he went ahead and applied for social assistance this past Jan., and never bothered to tell me. I know that I am contractly obligated to support him until 2012, but is he still allowed to claim social assistance when he is living for free with family? I just feel like I have been played, from the the push from his family in Canada for us to get married much sooner then planned because they said immigration would take so long with him being from Iran, to all of a sudden they quit supporting him for university when we had all discussed that it wouldn't be my responsibility since he was in university already when I met him, and that when he came to Canada after graduation that yes ofcourse any further schooling would be mine.
Now that things went horribly sour with us, I can see that his money craved family were the ones who told him to apply for social assistance and he is going on their recommendations. He has agreed to cancel the social assistance, and I want to get a seperation agreement right away to protect myself until the 3 year end date and for whenever I can get a final divorce. I feel him going on social assistance, in which I know he did not need to go on it at all was out of advice from him family and spite to try and ruin chances of me ever meeting someone else and possibly re-marry again as I have left canada. So long winded way of asking: anyone know a good lawyer in Toronto? And now what is a specific amount I would need to still send him until this 3 year term is done. I have given about 40,000 over the last two years for his school, rent, life , etc...I assumed foolishly that I had done my part when his family dumped it on me, I assumed under good faith they would take care of their family member for this last year, as I know they can afford. I am just trying to figure out how to protect myself. This should be the easiest divorce as we have no ties, assests, properties, rrsps etc, as I got rid of everything when I left canada 3 years ago. All we have tied together is our marriage contract from Iran. I have gone from meeting I thought the love of my life who I was ready to do anything for,, packed up my life in Canada to be with him, to feeling like I have been tricked.
Any words of advice?
Thanks
