The Perils of Living Apart

[limejuice_23]

Hi Everyone, Hope all is well on your side of the woods.

This is a bit personal. You lot are probably the only set of people who can understand what I am going through.

We've been living apart for awhile now and add to that the stress of waiting for the result of our app...Well, let's just say that the past few weeks haven't been easy on our marriage. I know you should talk things out but sometimes its just too much and you just get tired of it. And then you realize how odd it is, to be angry at someone a thousand miles away....Like, what are they gonna do? Its not as if you can ask them to "give you space" or "cool down" You're physically apart! What does it matter????

It is almost funny. Except it's not.

 

[Eowyn]

The entire process can be difficult on all marriages even if the couple is together. This is a stressful time and it's not unusual to take frustrations out on each other. The important thing to remember is that this is a relatively short period of time in the grand scheme things and the end result will be worth it. Just be sure to keep talking to each other (even when you don't feel like it) and always reminds each other how much you love one another even when you are upset.

 

[zardoz]

The entire process can be difficult on all marriages even if the couple is together. This is a stressful time and it's not unusual to take frustrations out on each other. The important thing to remember is that this is a relatively short period of time in the grand scheme things and the end result will be worth it. Just be sure to keep talking to each other (even when you don't feel like it) and always reminds each other how much you love one another even when you are upset.

Well said Wife...

 

[limejuice_23]

The entire process can be difficult on all marriages even if the couple is together. This is a stressful time and it's not unusual to take frustrations out on each other. The important thing to remember is that this is a relatively short period of time in the grand scheme things and the end result will be worth it. Just be sure to keep talking to each other (even when you don't feel like it) and always reminds each other how much you love one another even when you are upset.

Thanks, This is what I am trying to do. I am trying to be positive as best I could...I suppose there's really noting much to do but wait.

 

[Hasan9999]

This time of our life is very delicate and both must be very tolerant, in continuous communication, plan for future together, share emotions and to avoid mental gap by all means...

 

[Kev1n]

Well said Wife...

Haha looks like wife as said a lot of well said answers, from the amount of points she has

 

[hanna747]

Hi Everyone, Hope all is well on your side of the woods.

This is a bit personal. You lot are probably the only set of people who can understand what I am going through.

We've been living apart for awhile now and add to that the stress of waiting for the result of our app...Well, let's just say that the past few weeks haven't been easy on our marriage. I know you should talk things out but sometimes its just too much and you just get tired of it. And then you realize how odd it is, to be angry at someone a thousand miles away....Like, what are they gonna do? Its not as if you can ask them to "give you space" or "cool down" You're physically apart! What does it matter????

It is almost funny. Except it's not.

I feeL you sis... We are in the same boat... un feeLing na pag magkasama kyo daLawa, parang waLa probLem pero once na you guys are apart, aLam mo n magfa-fyt n nmn kyo... and its harder to fix the probLem kasi magkaLayo kyo... kasi iba pa rin kapag nag-uusap kyo nang magkaharapan... yup, masarap ma-hear na pag away kyo, mag-eexpLain cya why nya nagawa yun and magso-sorry cya... pero mas masarap un pakiramdam n ma-hug ka nya then he wiLL say to you na "everything wiLL be aLright"...pero cympre sis, waLa nmn tyo magagawa naun but to hoLd on and hope n everything wiLL be aLright... kaya Lagi q say sa partner q na dapat pag-usapan nmin Lahat, as in Lahat Lahat... un nasa isip nya, un feeLing nya... at aq rin un, say q sknya... kasi ang Lagi think ng tao aLways n "space" ang need... yes, we need space to think about things.. pero at the end of the day, we reaLLy need to communicate to the other person kung ano ang taLaga nasa icip and heart ntin... peopLe can't read minds... we have to communicate... at dun Lang magco-compromise... and from there, both parties can decide what and how the this reLationship can work and make it better... cuz it takes two to tango, diba? another na na-Learn q... we shouLd Learn to Listen... kc sometimes, nagiging seLfish tyo... ang think Lang ntin kung ano gusto natin... concern Lng ntin what is hurting us... pero un partner ntin, do we reaLLy think about them?? Long distance... waLa nmn nagsabi na madaLi ito... kaya nga naniniwaLa aq para sa matatapang Lang un... pero pag naLampasan to, mas mag-grow ang Love kasi na-test tLga un reLationship... and what is speciaL about LDR?? you wiLL appreciate it more kasi you, yourseLf, know na you reaLLy did everything to make it work and because, he is worth it... basta sis, hoLd on Lng... God wiLL guide your marriage... the next time na mag-usap kyo, imbes na magaLit ka or bad mood ka, approach him in a different way... un weLcoming and positive way... mas maganda un diba? at Least ma-Lessen ang fyt... Good Luck sis and God BLess!

 

[limejuice_23]

I feeL you sis... We are in the same boat... un feeLing na pag magkasama kyo daLawa, parang waLa probLem pero once na you guys are apart, aLam mo n magfa-fyt n nmn kyo... and its harder to fix the probLem kasi magkaLayo kyo... kasi iba pa rin kapag nag-uusap kyo nang magkaharapan... yup, masarap ma-hear na pag away kyo, mag-eexpLain cya why nya nagawa yun and magso-sorry cya... pero mas masarap un pakiramdam n ma-hug ka nya then he wiLL say to you na "everything wiLL be aLright"...pero cympre sis, waLa nmn tyo magagawa naun but to hoLd on and hope n everything wiLL be aLright... kaya Lagi q say sa partner q na dapat pag-usapan nmin Lahat, as in Lahat Lahat... un nasa isip nya, un feeLing nya... at aq rin un, say q sknya... kasi ang Lagi think ng tao aLways n "space" ang need... yes, we need space to think about things.. pero at the end of the day, we reaLLy need to communicate to the other person kung ano ang taLaga nasa icip and heart ntin... peopLe can't read minds... we have to communicate... at dun Lang magco-compromise... and from there, both parties can decide what and how the this reLationship can work and make it better... cuz it takes two to tango, diba? another na na-Learn q... we shouLd Learn to Listen... kc sometimes, nagiging seLfish tyo... ang think Lang ntin kung ano gusto natin... concern Lng ntin what is hurting us... pero un partner ntin, do we reaLLy think about them?? Long distance... waLa nmn nagsabi na madaLi ito... kaya nga naniniwaLa aq para sa matatapang Lang un... pero pag naLampasan to, mas mag-grow ang Love kasi na-test tLga un reLationship... and what is speciaL about LDR?? you wiLL appreciate it more kasi you, yourseLf, know na you reaLLy did everything to make it work and because, he is worth it... basta sis, hoLd on Lng... God wiLL guide your marriage... the next time na mag-usap kyo, imbes na magaLit ka or bad mood ka, approach him in a different way... un weLcoming and positive way... mas maganda un diba? at Least ma-Lessen ang fyt... Good Luck sis and God BLess!

Salamat ng marami sa words of wisdom..sis, pray na lang talaga tayo na malapit na tayong ma re-unite with our partners/spouses...God Bless din!