Spousal Sponsorship - Advices needed.

[windchime]

Hello everyone,

I hope someone could give us some advices.

I met my husband online (I'm australian). We started a long-distance relationship for about 4 years. We maintained the relationship by talking on skype and emails. A few months ago we met for the first time (in canada) and got married soon afterwards. My family didn’t know about our relationship and once my mother found out she was against it. She didn’t attend our small celebration. Now we’re preparing our application and I’m worried that there may not be enough strong evidences so I’m thinking about consulting/hiring a lawyer. Would that be a good thing to do? What else can we do to prove that our relationship is genuine?

 

[taffy7]

There are a number of things you can do . If you are still in Oz it wil be a bit more difficult as you wont have many pictures together , but this is what you can do . Any photos you can get off facetime or skype print them off . Any facebook chats or any logs of chats e.g texts or whatsapp print off. Any telephone bills showing that you have called each other . You can get a small life insurance and add each other to it. You can also add each other to your credit cards. Any cards you have from each other , any gifts you sent to each other, Receipts for you wedding rings , dress the place you had your wedding reception even if it was just a few of you doesn't matter. Its a waste of money hiring a lawyer he is going to ask you to provide all the proof. Your mum is just hurting because she didn't get to plan your wedding i expect .Good luck .

 

[Kayaker]

In addition to all taffy7 mentioned, I would take the time to sit down and write a really really good personal statement. (At the end of one of your forms, it gives you a chance to write whatever else you feel would prove your relationship is genuine.)

Explain in detail how you met, how you felt about him/the two of you at first, how your feelings developed, how you started thinking about a life together. Explain why you did not mention your relationship to your family. Explain why you decided to get married so soon after the first real life meeting. Remember, you are explaining all this to a total stranger who knows nothing about you or your family. You have to explain your reasoning, explain why it happened that your mom was against it. You could also explain how you two plan on mending bridges with her, how you are trying to get your family to accept your husband. Don't just state the facts, explain your thought process.

My husband and I met online too, we talked online for 6 months, met in person in June, talked about getting married within the first two weeks, got engaged in August and married in December. My parents only met him the day before we got married. If you just see that timeline, anyone would think that's kind of unnaturally fast. I took care to explain in detail all the reasons why each thing happened, giving examples to prove my point. I described how the relationship changed me, and how it changed my husband. I explained why we decided to live in Canada. I explained what we envision our lives to me after we get PR, what kind of job I would look for in Canada. I explained our ideas about having children and how we would raise them.

It takes effort, but I think it's worthwhile spending time and effort to write a good statement, especially if your relationship has some potential red flags, such as getting married soon after first meeting, or not having (many) friends and family present at the wedding. These things can be red flags in CIC's eyes, but if you can give good explanations, it's perfectly possible to convince CIC that your relationship is genuine.

 

[windchime]

Thank you so much Taffy7 and Kayaker. I really appreciate your advices.