But thanks anyway, I'll let you all know how it goes..next step is legal adviceand if necessary legal representation.
Legal advice would be a waste of money. Your options have been fully laid out for you here. A lawyer can't tell you anything different unless they tell you something wrong, which happens often.
Keep in mind also that adding a spouse as an accompanying dependent may affect your EE points. Some people find they don't qualify with an accompanying spouse, and are forced to include as non-accompanying to sponsor them later.
The CRS score is only recalculated if changes happen before e-APR. .