We are single income as well, as he is out of status and can't work. Well, he could, but that would harm the application so he won't. We finally managed to get joint accounts, and I added his name to the cable and epcor bill but it doesn't show up on the bill so that doesn't really help. We have a joint lease, but no children. I was at school until very recently so I just started working too. We submitted some extra proof, like the bank stuff, offer letter for the job, facebook stuff and photos, and some letters from friends and family. However they were not notarized so we may have to do that part over again. We don't have lots of stuff together because I lived abroad for 5 years or so and all my stuff is old and was in storage or is handed down from my family. He gave most of his stuff away when he moved here from the east coast. We have no money to buy together things and don't want a whole lot anyway!!
I hate the fact that we have to dissect our relationship - it makes love into a clinical process and it feels so unfair!! When I was giving my parents an update recently, they had no idea of everything we are going through!!