Desi-girl said:As sajuabraham is saying above, it is very correct. "Tough times don't last, tough people do" is my personal mantra and it is very true. These times might be terrible and make you feel miserable. Plus, it has been straining on a few relationships as posted by some of us previously. But we should only become stronger mentally and emotionally to over come the situation we are facing currently.
We are all going through tough times right now with the separation from our spouses for months and still counting. But I think that it will pass and we will all have our visas soon and be together. This is just one hurdle and it is testing our endurance in hard times. Just imagine for a moment that if we can get past this on our own without our spouse, we can get past anything with our spouse being with us. So this is the time to be as supportive to one another as possible, not argue with each other to strain the relationships with each other.
There are far worse scenarios than the one we are currently living in. Think about all the families that are torn apart because of job placements countries apart after years of being together. These people are missing out on their children's birthdays, graduations, awards ceremonies, promotions, anniversaries and many more milestones. Then there are Diwali, Holi, Eid, Christmas, and many other festivals being missed. Some husbands are away from their wife's side throughout her pregnancy and can't make it for the delivery. Some elderly parents are taking their last breaths and their children aren't allowed to take time of from work or don't have the financial means to fly to be by their parent's side. Think about the families torn apart by tragedies.
These important moments won't come back. But with us, we are just starting out with our married lives and we can have many of these moments in the future. And we can make many more memories and push these times to the back of our minds.
Every cloud has a silver lining. Our silver lining right now is the PR approval and being with our spouses and WE will get it soon. So please stop feeling miserable and apologize to each other if you have to. Just smile and have faith. Good news is definitely on its way, but it has to be unpredictable, just like life. Or we would miss out on the learning experiences as well as the fun and joy of life.
Sure, we will all have these negative moments on and off until we get what our hearts desire. But don't let it affect those around us and don't spoil your relationships. Life and relationships are precious and have to be handled delicately and with love.
Good luck to everyone and hope we get lots of IPs and DMs before the year ends.
I am sure it's coming, as NDVO has been far too silent right now.
Wow! This is inspiring! Thanks for this post!
