Re: "Pressing On", I believe at certain age and time of your life it's more acceptable than at others.
I can guarantee that if we were 20 some old now, we would not think twice and would just go and look for an adventure.
When you are single or when you just met someone and you are both young, with no children, no responsibilities at all, the world seems to be one big adventure and it's easy to try and fail. After all, you are still very young, full of overwhelming energy and boundless optimism, and you have no kids that depend on you. It's a bit different when you are mature, adult person with growing kids of your own.
You don't feel like you want to run a marathon for the fun and excitement of it. If you will put some great effort you want to have probabilities in your side, so you don't feel like a complete looser if you don't make it. And , most importantly, you don't want to uproot your children and endanger their life (yes, if we failed to establish ourselves and squandered our savings we would end up homeless on the street, and that would be putting the lives of our children at great risk). You no longer can afford to be reckless and irresponsible.
You still have a courage,but it is not one to be confused with foolishness.
That's how we feel.
If it was up to me personally, I would at this time stay here in US. I like Canada a lot, but US is where my home is now.
I like the fact that we have rights here. I can say anything I want to anyone I want at any time I want, and it includes any figure of authority, no matter how high up he or she is. My rights and freedoms are protected in this country to an extent that I don't believe any other country in the world can match.
But I am a big fan of civility and courtesy, and I think I would feel better or cosier in Canada which seems to be a country of gentler people. I am OK in US environment where you have to constantly struggle and show how tough you are, but deep inside I would much prefer to have it gentle way, with more harmony inside and less strife outside. I feel US is somewhat teenagish in certain ways and you reach a point in your life when you grow out of your teens. How would it feel if others didn't? Also, I am not a huge fan of uber high dynamics. I am a guy who generally likes to relax, even hybernate while contemplating a lot over something, not kind of a guy who wants to run around non stop, jump up and down and make impulsive decisions on the go.
So, there are reasons why I liked it in Canada.
However, on the balance of scales, I think if it was up to me I would stay.
My wife, however, thinks difefrently, and she has valid points too. She really wants to move to Canada and feels genuinely sad at a thought that we may blow it and loose the LPR we tried so hard to qualify for.
At this point, it feels like if we get professional job offers before we hit the deadline we will accept and move. If not, then risk will be just too high to rationally accept. And we will be forced to give up. We will see.
Whatever will be let it be.
I will take time off from this board and go work on job searching and doing what some of the posters here advised us to so.
If anything works out I will return and update everyone.
This is a great discussion board. Very helpful and productive. Glad that I came here to ask your advise.
Wishing the very best to all of you!
