Yes, it's a good idea to let CIC know about challenges that you are facing. but it's Water under the Bridge for them.
my friend most of us have gone through these challenges at some time in our migration to Canada. you have no other option.
you sound to be an Indian. If you have accurate and strong supporting documentation. Job is not a mandatory requirement for Spouse category, but it does help in speeding up the processes. plus by submitting proof of (wedding invitation, traditional marriage pictures and a Marriage certificate issued by govt) would also speed up the process.
Option # 2
while you are waiting for PR, every three months spend $2000 take one week vacation. (Justification: Once we have whats-up we are not paying any more longdistance bill, in 1997 we paid about $900 per month, in those days it was 75 cents a minute (no calling cards).
Option # 3
apply for a visit visa, or a student visa