It has been VERY helpful to have a place where others understand the stress, worry, boredom, and uncertainty! My husband is my best friend, but I don't think he REALLY understood completely everything I was feeling. He was in Southern Ontario for around 5 months last year, and I would drive down to visit him once a month or so. One night everyone wanted to drive across the border to some restaurant in the U.S. *I*, the AMERICAN, was the only one who couldn't go! And it really upset me. I don't think he understood just why.