Yeah very true....that is quite normal in Islamic cultures I believe....something I would never do as a Canadian, but if another Canadian did I wouldn't say "how can you marry your cousin...jeez"
I Want To Sponsor My 17 Year Old Wife
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Yeah very true....that is quite normal in Islamic cultures I believe....something I would never do as a Canadian, but if another Canadian did I wouldn't say "how can you marry your cousin...jeez"
If a culture allows old people to marry underage children(less than 16 years old) (this is not the case I know) that culture is WRONG, I don't care about opinions. Its objectively messed up. I want to Clarify again that this is not the case and while a 17 years old is still a child and is not ADVISABLE to marry someone so young specially if your are that MUCH older, it is legal an therefore it's only a personal opinion with little to no weight.
I would suspect this is an arranged marriage where securing immigration is the goal and perhaps one less mouth to feed. You forget that in many countries your family’s standing in the community is extremely important. Having one child marry a Canadian may help secure a better marriage for your other children and women are not always valued as much plus their wishes are not always considered. Can’t imagine a situation where a young woman would be able to tell a Canadian IRCC employee that they weren’t comfortable in the marriage and they did not want to come to Canada. Consent, motives for marriage and Canada’s responsibility that they approve a safe and healthy marriage are the big issues. Is the teenager aware of her rights in Canada? That may also be a concern. There is such an imbalance of power in this situation. The man is double her age, speaks English, likely has the money, knows how to drive and get around Canada, knows the laws, she likely lives with his family, etc. Having grown up in Canada even my religious friends would consider marrying a 16 year old especially as a 28 year old very unusual. Many would consider marriage, for women, in their early 20s pretty typical in their communities.
In terms of cousin-cousin marriage I was surprised to hear it was legal in Canada when I looked into it many years ago. I had always grown up thinking it wasn’t legal to marry a first cousin. What is unfortunate is many are not accepting that there is a high risk of abnormalities in their children. Unfortunately because some families are unaffected but other are severely affected there is still the thought by many that the disabilities in children are punishments and have nothing to do with intermarriage. Hopefully Imams are educating families and discouraging cousin-cousin marriages unless you have done in depth genetic testing before marriage. Should add letting their children have input on who they marry and decide between and arranged or a love marriages is also important. Some Imams have been more willing to accept scientific proof. In general this often comes down to securing immigration for family members and keeping wealth/property in a family. Also the belief that a family member will care for you and your family more than a love marriage. Unfortunately multiple siblings can end up with awful degenerative conditions that cause a lot of suffering, are very expensive to care for and the care needs are extremely demanding and expensive for families. There are some interesting documentaries on the issue.
https://www.theguardian.com/society...d-as-significant-factor-bradford-child-deaths
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