How do you deal with the wait?

[sariss]

I was lucky enough that my husband is from a visa exempt country and he was able to stay with me during the whole process.

 

[gsize]

wow...your timeline was quick !

Thats the way it should be for most cases.

 

[lalune117]

I was lucky enough that my husband is from a visa exempt country and he was able to stay with me during the whole process.

Well, I am from a visa exempt country. But, I am on five psych meds, and six regular meds. I need regular doctor's care. Insurance is important. I also currently live in mental health housing, and would have nowhere to put my belongings if I went up there before I get the COPR.

 

[gsize]

Well, I am from a visa exempt country. But, I am on five psych meds, and six regular meds. I need regular doctor's care. Insurance is important. I also currently live in mental health housing, and would have nowhere to put my belongings if I went up there before I get the COPR.

I will include you in my prayers ! Hang in there !

 

[MadeInCanada]

I have not seen my husband in 17 months. We have so far passed 2 months after SA and have about 13 more long months looming over us. I do not think that a visit will be in the near future either.

I spend a lot of my time trying to do things to keep my mind occupied. For the most part it doesn't work. Little things will remind me of a time we did this or that, or I will think of how I want to show him things as I am doing them. So even the everyday mundane tasks can cause me burst into tears.

I know I am depressed. I try to avoid seeing people so they can't ask me anything about the immigration process or even my husband. It makes me feel way to vulnerable to be upset in front and anyone. I feel like I walk through everyday as a zombie. Not the people eating kind of course, the emotionally void and heart broken kind.

I have tried the "look forward to the future" route, planing things we can do and so on. It worked for a while. I have tried the keep a positive outlook thing too. All I can say is I am positive with every passing day my heart breaks a little bit more.

The reality is we have some red flags and I can plan everything down to the amount of socks he needs, or how many long johns he'll have to wear in the winter to avoid making an "Egyptiancicle". They could still say no. Our life is hanging for the decision a complete stranger will make on our marriage. (I know, we all are like that).

I find comfort in helping others here(or trying to) and following to see as others get PPR and then their visa. I feel happy for them, and hey, right about now any happy is a good happy. Hope no one minds me being a happy leech! Living vicariously off all of your happy moments and success stories....

 

[Bargeld]

Yes 5htp is good. I was taking that for a while but it stoped working after a while.

The best advice I ever got.......keep busy........learn a language........the wait is not easy.....but you have to keep busy. During my darkest days....2 years ago....my friends used to come over and take me for a walk. The dark clouds eventually fade away.....

Another Corona please !

Wish I had taken the advice to learn another language. Join a social community (even if online), do fun things to take your mind off this. That's about all I can think of.

 

[sariss]

Well, I am from a visa exempt country. But, I am on five psych meds, and six regular meds. I need regular doctor's care. Insurance is important. I also currently live in mental health housing, and would have nowhere to put my belongings if I went up there before I get the COPR.

Would you require to live in a mental health house here, or could you stay with your sponsor?
What province are you moving to? Every province is different - in Ontario you don't get provincial healthcare until you've been a PR here for 3 months.

 

[lalune117]

Would you require to live in a mental health house here, or could you stay with your sponsor?
What province are you moving to? Every province is different - in Ontario you don't get provincial healthcare until you've been a PR here for 3 months.

I only live in mental health housing now because I can't afford to live on my own, as I am on disability and it only pays me 735 dollars a month after my insurance cost is taken out. That doesn't go very far in New York. lol
And the way the the housing I'm in now works is that I pay 1/3 of my income to an agency and the state of NY picks up the rest of the rent on the room I live in. I live in a bedroom in a house shared with two other women.

I will, of course, be living with my husband when I get to Canada, as he can afford to support me (especially since I can keep my disability payments as I am still a citizen o the US). I also intend to get back into the workforce in the customer service field after I move. I was out of the workforce for a few years due to my mental health issues (I was really bad as I had a psychotic break and tried to kill myself right after Christmas of 2009), but I think I am ready to re-enter it.

I am moving to Alberta. We've already checked with Alberta Health, and I can get my healthcare pretty much as soon as I get off the plane.

 

[parker24]

I only live in mental health housing now because I can't afford to live on my own, as I am on disability and it only pays me 735 dollars a month after my insurance cost is taken out. That doesn't go very far in New York. lol
And the way the the housing I'm in now works is that I pay 1/3 of my income to an agency and the state of NY picks up the rest of the rent on the room I live in. I live in a bedroom in a house shared with two other women.

I will, of course, be living with my husband when I get to Canada, as he can afford to support me (especially since I can keep my disability payments as I am still a citizen o the US). I also intend to get back into the workforce in the customer service field after I move. I was out of the workforce for a few years due to my mental health issues (I was really bad as I had a psychotic break and tried to kill myself right after Christmas of 2009), but I think I am ready to re-enter it.

I am moving to Alberta. We've already checked with Alberta Health, and I can get my healthcare pretty much as soon as I get off the plane.

Check into disability payments in Alberta as well. Here in Ontario, you would probably get disability within three months as well.