Heartbroken

[wilder1047]

Someone like this isn't deserving of your love. Everyone on here has gone through hell and high water to be reunited with their loved ones. If he's not willing to do so, he's not worth spending the rest of your life with.

Good Luck

 

[lindz]

Thanks.

Still so hard because I loved him with all my heart, never loved anyone like this before. I really and truly thought it was true love.

We spent 6 beautiful weeks together in December. He says that he cant marry because what happens if it does not work out? If only we could live together to see. But I knew in my heart of hearts that it would work out, we were a match made in heaven, once in a lifetime kind of love. I am no different from the person that he spent the 6 weeks with.

Still so confused and heartbroken, will this pain ever go away?

 

[FamilyMan]

Linda,

First off I am very sorry to hear about your situation.

I can only say that true love can only be defined by actions and not words.

The spousal sponsorship is indeed a very trying process but when you are in love...no challenge is too big.

As many in this thread have said in some form or another - it's best that this happened now very early on.

Take comfort in the fact that (a) he may not be committed enough to this relationship or (b) he is not being honest, and for either reason you are way better off now. It is very painful but you will come to realize it was for the better and he will come to realize the error of his ways.

Take Care

 

[shikha99]

wen one door closes anther opens.

 

[sogwap]

He says that he cant marry because what happens if it does not work out? If only we could live together to see.

This says a lot about the man you have/had your heart for. As he never even gave it a chance!
If it did not work out, it didn't work out. But sadly both you and he he will never know.

I know it's easy to say. His loose your gain... But his commitment seems so shallow. You deserve someone that will stand by you 100%.

 

[MexiCana]

He says that he cant marry because what happens if it does not work out?

You can never be certain of anything in life, you just need to take the risk. I remember being terrified when I left my ex for my current (and true) love. It was a terrible unloving relationship but I had financial stability, many friends and a family whom I loved in my in-laws. I lost all of that when I left and I had no way of being certain if things would work out with my partner Mexi (although luckily they did). I felt like I was jumping off a cliff and didn't know where i would land. It was scary but it was also the best thing I ever did. Most of the best things we do in life are also the hardest, eh?

I am so sorry that your partner decided not to take the jump when you were so willing to do so. Big hugs to you in getting through this very difficult time.

 

[canadianatheart]

My heart goes out to Lindz and all of the people in this forum who have had this type of fate. Love really does hurt sometimes
God Bless your heart

 

[lindz]

Thank you to everyone for your kind wishes.

I pray that he will still change his mind.... I feel so empty without him in my life, even though he was so far away.