Haa.. I should have seen that coming.
Any way, although this is going off topic but unfortunately i have pretty much hurt some one's ego although at no point have i gone off etiquette.
You are assumed to be what you write on the internet. No one knows here each other personally (otherwise may be you would have thought twice before writing 'yaar', laalay). For a starting point, i have kids nearly half your age (if not equal) and there are a lot of university students for whom i am 'sir' considering back ground, age and exposure. Any way that is not the point here.
When you write 'it is parents liability, and it is no ihsaan'. That is simply interpreted to be your opinion. What's wrong with that inference? Didn't you exactly write that out? You might be a great son otherwise. But again what you write here is your only representation. Do me a favor, show that to your parents. Precisely, what you wrote and ask them how you feel.
For a little context here, i have worked for many years with people from west, specially those from US. They (and in general developed world) thinks we Pakistanis are fools and we waste our generation by supporting them AFTER they attain puberty. We waste our lives, energies and money to give our kids strong foundations. But it also prevents them from developing the skills to face the world. Our kids don't work in mc donalds if their family can afford them. University students in the US have tons of loans behind their backs. That is very real for their lives and that is why they take their education seriously or simply drop off if they don't see the feasibility.
The disadvantage is they never develop the bond with their children and hence are left to old homes in the old ages. Pakistani and Eastern values are different. But still we need to teach our kids the realities of life.
If not already, you all will soon be parents. Trust me, it is a very hard and life changing experience. You sacrifice a lot of yourself to bring up your kids. And NOT ALL PARENTS do that. Warna chor ka beta chor na hota. Because it is more of training yourself than your kids and that is really hard. Children learn by example, not by preaching. So to make them better humans, you have to become better yourself. Theoretically, you all know this already, but the gravity and intensity will only be felt when you become ones yourself.
I am a little too old for being emotional or to - chill. So all of this is not sentimental at all and i only write this after my kids are asleep
So stop trying to show me your cool head and not take this personal. We are not at cross roads of age, profession or background to argue. Just take that as a piece of advice from a generation little ahead of yourself.
Our values are great and are our identity. But if our next generations waste all of it by representing themselves publicly with 'every parent does that, koi ihsaan nahin, we should change that mentality'. Then we will not prosper and we will continue to see our youngsters sitting on the corners of every street wasting time but doing nothing useful with their lives, as they already do.
If you able to see beyond emotions, this was merely written as a parent and God forbidden it will be the worst day of my parenthood when and if my son turns and says the same sentence as above to me. So i am just trying here to prevent that from happening.
Enough said already and my apologies for a long one on an unrelated thread. I won't write further on this.
