Hi! I am brand new here and would love some opinions on what I should do in my particular situation. I'm sure you've heard countless different stories, and hopefully this will be something a bit different!
I'm a 28 year old male in love with a 31 year old Canadian woman! Our relationship started over the internet (gasp!) on March 1st, 2011. Since then, we've had ups and downs just like most relationships, but we have managed to keep it together for over 2.5 years.
She is still currently married with two amazing children. Our relationship did not interfere with anything going on with her husband. They had been separated for over four years before we originally became a couple. She just never bothered to put in the paperwork because it is an expensive process. She and her ex have signed and notarized a separation agreement, and in February she is going to file it so the divorce process can become final. We estimate, worst case, that she'll be divorced by July, 2014.
As you can imagine, after 2.5 years, I am ready to be there with her. I've visited her nine times from Dallas, where I live, and she has come to visit me three times from Edmonton. We have a lot of traveling under our belts, including a trip to Vegas!
The question is, of course, how can I get there? Obviously, she can’t sponsor me while still legally married to her husband. I would prefer not to move there for six months while visiting just to have to leave again to come back to Dallas. That would be difficult to explain to the kids and they are, after all, the most important people in our lives.
Fortunately, being a tax analyst, I can do my job from home and log into work remotely. The idea was to move there and visit for six months and then come back to the states, but that is just a temporary fix for something that I wish could happen faster. I know it’s a long process. I know that the paperwork isn’t even guaranteed. I just want to be with her and the kids. I want to be able to start a family with her and not worry about being 2000 miles away and Skyping priceless moments with our future kids.
We don’t want to rush a wedding. We want to do it on our own terms and give people plenty of notice so they can make travel accommodations and get passports. We have a date set for September 3, 2015, but that means I wouldn’t be able to get sponsored (if the paperwork is done correctly) until 2017. By then, we would have been together six years. I will wait that long if I have to, but I have to tell you, it would be incredibly devastating not being able to help raise our children that we plan to have.
I have tried looking for work in Alberta, but they don’t seem to be interested in anyone unless they are in-home nurses, doctors, millionaires or oil workers. I’ve looked into schooling in Alberta, but then I wouldn’t be able to keep my full time career going while taking enough class hours.
I’ll try to be less long-winded and just wrap it up with a simple tl;dr question:
How can I get to Canada given our current circumstance?
I'm a 28 year old male in love with a 31 year old Canadian woman! Our relationship started over the internet (gasp!) on March 1st, 2011. Since then, we've had ups and downs just like most relationships, but we have managed to keep it together for over 2.5 years.
She is still currently married with two amazing children. Our relationship did not interfere with anything going on with her husband. They had been separated for over four years before we originally became a couple. She just never bothered to put in the paperwork because it is an expensive process. She and her ex have signed and notarized a separation agreement, and in February she is going to file it so the divorce process can become final. We estimate, worst case, that she'll be divorced by July, 2014.
As you can imagine, after 2.5 years, I am ready to be there with her. I've visited her nine times from Dallas, where I live, and she has come to visit me three times from Edmonton. We have a lot of traveling under our belts, including a trip to Vegas!
The question is, of course, how can I get there? Obviously, she can’t sponsor me while still legally married to her husband. I would prefer not to move there for six months while visiting just to have to leave again to come back to Dallas. That would be difficult to explain to the kids and they are, after all, the most important people in our lives.
Fortunately, being a tax analyst, I can do my job from home and log into work remotely. The idea was to move there and visit for six months and then come back to the states, but that is just a temporary fix for something that I wish could happen faster. I know it’s a long process. I know that the paperwork isn’t even guaranteed. I just want to be with her and the kids. I want to be able to start a family with her and not worry about being 2000 miles away and Skyping priceless moments with our future kids.
We don’t want to rush a wedding. We want to do it on our own terms and give people plenty of notice so they can make travel accommodations and get passports. We have a date set for September 3, 2015, but that means I wouldn’t be able to get sponsored (if the paperwork is done correctly) until 2017. By then, we would have been together six years. I will wait that long if I have to, but I have to tell you, it would be incredibly devastating not being able to help raise our children that we plan to have.
I have tried looking for work in Alberta, but they don’t seem to be interested in anyone unless they are in-home nurses, doctors, millionaires or oil workers. I’ve looked into schooling in Alberta, but then I wouldn’t be able to keep my full time career going while taking enough class hours.
I’ll try to be less long-winded and just wrap it up with a simple tl;dr question:
How can I get to Canada given our current circumstance?
