Perhaps you didn’t look into in the context of immigration since it is pretty well known. Too late now. Hopefully you can work things out between your sister and your parents.
It’s a cultural thing. Until you experience life in some of these countries, you can’t apply your values and expectations to their situation(s). I’ve seen situations where families offered up young daughters as collateral on loans or to pay off debts (and I’m not talking significant sums of money....like $600 debt). Children are often used as tools to a means.
You can say it is a cultural thing but given that the OP has the money to support the children in Canada and is a father himself I would hope that he would have offered to help his sister financially. Giving up 1 year old twins after being widowed must be heartbreaking.
Agreed, and my parents were born in India and my wife is an Indian citizen so I may not understand the cultures of all countries but India I can say I do which is where the opening poster is from. Someone very close to me did the exact same thing, mom widowed with child, father widowed with two children, father didn't know how to cook or clean or properly take care of kids (common in that generation), so they set them up and worked well for both sides.
Actually its not easy to find another match with Husband widowed and had kids. Not many people are ready to accept a women with kids. In India, when most parents take care of kid, they basically supports their education, wedding or even later if needed to be. Where in western world generally speaking once you are 16, you are done. Why would someone ready to spend so much when there is no emotional involvement since beginning...I would not blame those people as well. There are lot of things that needs to be in consideration when marriage alliance happens in India. Its even difficult for her to loose husband and now kids but she is not strongly financially well placed. The pre-scool fees are now 1 lac per year per kid ($2000 a year). Education is crazy and fucking expensive.Sometime you have to be practical about life and do whats needed. Atleast she is relieved that her brother is taking care of kids not some random person.
Hate to break it to you but parents are definitely financially responsible for children after 16
The issue you have now is that you will still need to care for your parents and children in India or pay for a caregiver in India if you want your parents to come to Canada so the poor children will not have you as a parent either.I respectfully disagree with you, I am also familiar with Indian culture.
