what you are all telling me is that we met 4 years ago and I see him in his country for 3 month visits 3 times and he comes here for 3 month visits 4 times living with each other i cant stay longer one because i have to have medical treatments and care and family here. He doesnt have any skills that Canada would give him a work visa to come and stay, for us to see each other longer (1yr) so he can not afford to be out of work for long peroids, pay for a home back there, be here for a year pay to come here and pay for living here for a year with no work because he does not rate to get a work visa. As well as save for when he is awaiting the 1 year sponsor period . that's 2 years not working thats a long time of pressure and stress financially on two low income people and me on pension disability. When we are together we are common law in my home i look after him we share everything, in his home the same its like its my home i have decorated his home and his belongings are in my home. We are elder folks we don't have alot. we are not starting out careers we are ending them. We just want to live them lastly together, Forcing marriage on us i am from an abusive marriage I love this man want him here with me , I want my estate to go to my children. living commonlaw in canada already has its laws that will cover him, in any case when he arrives we will be common law. We would be common law if we could be in the same place long enough, is our situation not understandable...? It is for us impossible for us to have done this any other way, we have no other solution to get him here with me as my commonlaw partner. he can not afford to be out of work for 2 years(1 sitting here with me to be common law, and another the waiting period for the sponsorship) as i wrote above, surely We would not be the only ones in this situation. and Conjugal was not specified only that if commonlaw could not be reasonably fullfilled. Is that not what a immigration lawyer is there to help advocate for?