Hello Everyone:
Our Story:
I have been absent for a while and with great reason—really being on the site gave me some great information and support but it brought me much sadness when I see how some folks behave in light of seeing other folks with less processing time getting through.
And at times it is not always positive- over time I feel myself getting more depressed and therefore chose to disconnect and let GOD.
I promised myself once my husband got through this process we would share our stories so that it will encourage, comfort and educate those who are going through the phrase.
My Story:
My tale started in 2011 when I first applied for my husband – with over a year in the process and no response from cic I cancelled the application in 2013 as we had some family issues that required immediate attention. Believe me the idea was to put it on hold but there was no such step.
In 2014 after all was resolved and the family matters were are taken care of freeing us to resume our lives, I put the application back in place November 2014- I thought because we were so far in the initial process and explaining cause for the cancellation which was critical would allow some compassion in escalating our file, no such luck. We started from scratch just like a new file. It has been a long process and a heart wrenching one- my husband and I have been together 10+years and we have a great family so it has been tough being apart when we spent 4 to 5 times per year together and over time got very costly. After reaching this site in September of 2015 on some advice I reached out to immigration to extend medical and receive a response of interview instead – not surprised as I did not send too much evidence of relationship in with the second application as I assumed they would use it from the first one- needless to say that was not the case.
The interview was scheduled for Nov. 19, 2015- a week before that date the VO contacted my husband and rescheduled the interview for January 21, 2016. I was so mad and hurt by their inconsiderate decision especially the BS line that they mentioned about circumstances beyond their control. I had plans to be in my husband on my birthday for xmas etc in my home for once but it was not meant to be. This would be the first Christmas we would be apart as I did not plan to travel thinking otherwise. It was the worst xmas ever but I must say it flew by and the interview rolled around.
The interview Process:
For me first there was the preparation once the letter was received and the request for additional information and evidence of communication and such I went to work.
I collected evidence of our union over the years from regular day to day photos plus a few mildly intimate ones of moments we shared from our walks on the beach to just sleeping in each other’s arms that our daughter captured, skype chat 5 years’ worth of transcript, what’s app, yahoo, etc. In addition to that my husband wrote a 15 page document- detailing our relationship from the moment we met up to current date- his vision of our love through his eyes. Needless to say I still read it sometimes and it bring tears to my eyes and I fall in love with him all over again.
The hard part, I looked up the list of questions online and we would role play every other day with me in the role of the immigration officer – ensuring he had answers- details answers to every questions on the list and I came up with additional ones to challenge him as well surrounding any red flags throughout our history that I think they might draw on to make sure there was no possibility of him being blindsided- this was a difficult process as when I did not hear what I wanted I really pushed him to the limit and took my role really serious in this matter. There were tearful moment frustrating moment but we pulled through. The day of the interview came and I was a wreck I was so nervous for him and wish I was there with him throughout the process, he interviewed- he will share his story… After the interview – he was sent to do police record for him and his daughter who turned 18 during the process- he was advised to drop it off at Gore Business Center- wrong information from VO- needless to say he had it the next day and turn up there only to be told the information was wrong. We ended up couriering the information only to receive another email a couple day later requesting more information---sigh his daughter needs to fill declaration and he needs to sign a document—which VO missed- we did that and send it and waited another few weeks--- VO Manager called to apologize and they confirm every time by phone when there was a question or doubt in the last leg of the process.---
Anyhow they had it there for a while as they now needed to do background on my stepdaughter information provided…well it was a long wait in my book but thankfully visa was issued last Friday February 19th and my husband picked it up from DHL on Wednesday. On Friday morning I awoke overwhelmed anxious and bewildered that my wait it now over…last night was my last night sleeping alone…I got to the airport at 6:30pm my husband flight arrive on time.. I parked and went in looking all sexy and ready to see him after not seeing him since July. Folks it was an anxious nerve wrecking moment but thanks to a wonderful friend who knows himself I had emotional support all the way.. I must say the wait was long it seems like many ppl game and went and nowhere was hubby in sight… I prayed and prayed and said God you got me this far let me hold on longer.. at approximately 8:09pm I saw him bust through the doors all smiles like a rock star and almost walk right by me like a pro who has been here before lol.. I called after him and he ran into my arms and we hug and hug some more and then the big whopper... I asked you had trouble? What took you so long – his response I was the first to get through but the immigration lady asked one question how you met you wife and I took shear joy in telling her our fairy tale romance over the years we both got loss the track of time as she keeps saying tell me more.. then what etc… he said finally they caught wind of the time and she said your wife must be worried—let me help you get SIN and walk you out as I am finished LOL….I was like seriously you find woman already babe hehehe…anyways I gave him his coat and we walked arms in arms to the Tim Hortons stand to get him his French vanilla… I said honey take a sip to warm you up before we step out into the cold – he was like no babe – I will have it in the car—I just want to go home with you…Rushing me to get thru the door -- am trying to tell him its cold button up when he briskly stepped out and echo “BUMBO”” when the cold hit him—20 minutes later we were home settled in have dinner and watch a movie together.. then it was time for bed… needless to say I would jump out of my sleep or startled every time I hear his heart beat as I sleep on his chest.. the reality that he is here is so surreal… today hubby got up and went straight to spoiling me—ackee and saltfish and cornmeal porridge that was my breakfast – we spent the whole day going to the mall, flea market—him driving us holding hands and just enjoying each other—at this moment I am listening to his heavy breathing while he sleeps beside me.. Sigh.. I would not change this moment for the world…I have one thing to say – when we go through this drama – remember the journey when things get rough and it will at times and always respect each other and the union—first for me is to concede as no longer the head of my house and giving that right to him so he know he is my king… secondly making sure he knows no matter what life has in store – we ride or die for life.. thanks to all who has advise me and never get jealous of anyone although we can’t help the feeling at times but just push through and allow GOD to work for us..
:-X :-*
