Ring Ceremony + Court Marriage (In Relationship since 2.5 years) - Sponsering

[vrajput]

Hi All,

I am canadian PR girl in relationship with my Indian boyfriend since 2.5 years (Mine and his parents were aware of our relationship) . We did high schooling together in India but weren't really in a relationship during School time. I donot have that many pics of both of us together as we were in a long distance relationship. I do have chats and emails from 2010 and only 2 pics of us together that I clicked !! Most of our talks have been on skype but unfortunately, cant access my call history as skype doesnt keep history 2 yrs ago. I may be able to pull out call history for my phone !!

Now thing is, I am in Canada and planning to go to India to get married with him. So now I am planning to got to India and do a ring ceremony or roka followed by a court marriage.,

Reasons why cant I do a traditional Marriage:
1. Am working full time and only allowed 2 weeks of vacation which is not sufficient for a proper marriage.
2. We are short on budget !!
3. My parents are here in Canada with me and there is noone in India who can make arrangements for the marriage.
4. Both my younger bro and elder sis wont be able to attend the marriage either. \

Now my concern is if I do decide to follow my plan and apply for his sponsorship and PR, how strong do you think my case is and how doubtful it is ?

Certainly its a genuine relation and I donot want to sound like its not. what are the things I should think about before going to India and doing all this ?

Any help is much appreciated.



Thanks

 

[CharlieD10]

Make sure you explain all the reasons you mentioned here for why you won't have a traditional wedding. Also, I know you said your parents are in Canada but is there no-one at all who could handle the formalities on your behalf in India? Whatever happens though, make sure you provide all your reasoning for not going the traditional route in your application. Ensure you discuss these reasons with your spouse, so you are both on the same page about your decisions.

 

[Fencesitter]

Hi:

I agree with Charlie. This is what I submitted:


Principal Applicant: Fencesitter's Wife

Form: Sponsored Spouse / Partner Questionnaire (IMM5490)

Question 15: Was there a formal ceremony to recognize/celebrate the marriage?

I did not have enough space on the form to complete my answer, so I have written my answer below.

We got married on May 22, 2009 at the Guangzhou Civil Affairs Bureau in Guangzhou, China. Those in attendance: my parents (XXXXXX and XXXXXXX) and sister (XXXXXXXX). Fencesitter's family was not in attendance due to a timing conflict (Fencesitter was working at the time, so it was not a good time for his parents to visit - they came to visit in July of 2009). His sister was busy taking care of her baby, so it was not a good time for her either, which we totally understood, especially now that we have our own baby (it is a lot of work!).

We chose to keep the ceremony simple because we did not want to spend a lot of money, and with Fencesitter's parents and sister unable to attend, it would not have been the right thing to do. We did, however, recite traditional wedding vows and exchanged rings. The vows we recited were the following: I, Fencesitter's Wife, take you, Fencesitter, to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part (we both recited these vows).

After the vows were read, we exchanged rings. Fencesitter gave me a diamond ring mounted on a gold band, and I gave him a platinum wedding band (please reference attached photos). We were a bit nervous when we exchanged the rings, and I remember it took a bit of time to get them on properly. After we exchanged the rings, Chen Xin Rui pronounced us husband and wife and we took pictures with my family. It was very hot outside, so we did not dress in formal clothes, plus Fencesitter had gained a lot of weight after our trip to Thailand, so he would not have fit into any of his formal dress clothes. I wore a summer dress we purchased in Thailand at “Roxy / Quiksilver”. We had our celebration meal in July 2009 when Fencesitter’s parents came to visit.

I would also like to add that when we were in Hong Kong with Fencesitter’s parents, Fencesitter surprised me with a second (much larger) diamond ring (please reference attached photo). He bought it from “Lok Fuk Jewelers” in Kowloon. I was very surprised, and it was a very romantic thing to do!! Fencesitter has a gigantic heart!

Note: Please reference the following attachments:

1. Photos of our marriage ceremony; and
2. Photos of our wedding rings

Hope this helps!

FS

 

[fandv]

Hi:

I agree with Charlie. This is what I submitted:


Principal Applicant: Fencesitter's Wife

Form: Sponsored Spouse / Partner Questionnaire (IMM5490)

Question 15: Was there a formal ceremony to recognize/celebrate the marriage?

I did not have enough space on the form to complete my answer, so I have written my answer below.

We got married on May 22, 2009 at the Guangzhou Civil Affairs Bureau in Guangzhou, China. Those in attendance: my parents (XXXXXX and XXXXXXX) and sister (XXXXXXXX). Fencesitter's family was not in attendance due to a timing conflict (Fencesitter was working at the time, so it was not a good time for his parents to visit - they came to visit in July of 2009). His sister was busy taking care of her baby, so it was not a good time for her either, which we totally understood, especially now that we have our own baby (it is a lot of work!).

We chose to keep the ceremony simple because we did not want to spend a lot of money, and with Fencesitter's parents and sister unable to attend, it would not have been the right thing to do. We did, however, recite traditional wedding vows and exchanged rings. The vows we recited were the following: I, Fencesitter's Wife, take you, Fencesitter, to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part (we both recited these vows).

After the vows were read, we exchanged rings. Fencesitter gave me a diamond ring mounted on a gold band, and I gave him a platinum wedding band (please reference attached photos). We were a bit nervous when we exchanged the rings, and I remember it took a bit of time to get them on properly. After we exchanged the rings, Chen Xin Rui pronounced us husband and wife and we took pictures with my family. It was very hot outside, so we did not dress in formal clothes, plus Fencesitter had gained a lot of weight after our trip to Thailand, so he would not have fit into any of his formal dress clothes. I wore a summer dress we purchased in Thailand at “Roxy / Quiksilver”. We had our celebration meal in July 2009 when Fencesitter's parents came to visit.

I would also like to add that when we were in Hong Kong with Fencesitter's parents, Fencesitter surprised me with a second (much larger) diamond ring (please reference attached photo). He bought it from “Lok Fuk Jewelers” in Kowloon. I was very surprised, and it was a very romantic thing to do!! Fencesitter has a gigantic heart!

Note: Please reference the following attachments:

1. Photos of our marriage ceremony; and
2. Photos of our wedding rings

Hope this helps!

FS

Wow......that's amazing Fencesitter....your wife's description is so detailed it's scary!! She even spelled out the wedding vow, and mentioned the name of the store where she purchased her wedding dress, and that you gained weight...!!

It got me thinking though: does everything in fact have to be THAT detailed? I've begun writing mine, but mine doesn't have such minute details.....hopefully it's acceptable!

 

[vrajput]

Thanks Charlie.. and Feinster.. I m really concerned as I donot want to see a refusal on my application. We just planned to do a trip together as well so that I can show more pics to them and explain them the genuinity of this relation.. do you think attaching personal pics wud help ?


I seriously dont mind doing that because we are in relatioship which is true..

and Fenster ur story is great and romantic.. did your application pass thru ?

 

[Fencesitter]

Thanks. Actually, I don't consider it to be overly detailed. In fact, there are more details I could have added, but for the sake of not wanting to waste the visa officer's time, I kept it to one page. It could easily have been two or three pages.

This is how I answered most questions. I rarely entered information on the IMM forms. Instead, I would simply type "Please reference attached sheet." I wanted to make sure I covered everything. Many of the IMM forms did not have adequate space.

If you think that was detailed, you should see the additional document I am sending to the Hong Kong visa office. 5 pages of extremely detailed information for my updated proof of intention to re-establish in Canada. The goal is to overwhelm the visa officer so that he/she gets to page 2 and says, "Yeah, yeah, yeah...you're definitely approved!" All the information provided is backed up with strong evidence such as pet relocation contract, quotation from www.expedia.com for our airline tickets, lease extension addendum, shipping quotation, updated correspondence with mortgage specialists and realtors, detailed relocation budget, and so on.

No, my wife hasn't received her visa yet, but we are really confident she will get it before the end of 2012. Our case has no red flags and everything is very much straightforward. It would really surprise me if it takes longer...we are all set to go...all we need is the visa...well, that and we need to sell our car and take care of some relocation stuff, but that is easy and the money is ready...we'll probably end up staying until February 10 when I can collect my last pay cheque...then off to Canada...

FS