I am gay. My wife is a lesbian. We had been college friends before. When I got older, I didn’t want same sex relationships anymore as most of my relationships didn’t work. I decided to settle down and have a family. Me, a wife, and children. When she knew about this, she volunteered herself. I made it clear that I’m only marrying someone who can give me a child. She said that’s also exactly what she wants (being a lesbian). She said she can do it right away. So we got married, i sponsored her to canada. Then after she got ger PR card, BOOM! She doesn’t talk much to me anymore. And the child that she promised? She always doesn’t want to talk about it. I spent a lot of money. She even got her sister to come to canada as a student, living in our house. I felt so used! With all the money, travels to get these sponsorship done and the time I have wasted. I moved out to move forward. Now I’m older and I lost faith in pulling myself altogether because of this tragic experience. Can I atleast cancel her PR? Can I sue her? Or I just have to accept that I was scammed?
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You are best advised (in my opinion) to accept that it did not work out and move on with your life. Forget about revenge or anything like it.
-You can potentially report to IRCC - but they would decide on their own whether to pursue the case or not. And without very solid proof that it was an intentional 'scam', they probably will not. You will have no futher involvement and likely never even be notified.
-"It did not work out" is largely a sufficient defence - unless there is a comically obvious piece of evidence / proof (like emails saying explicitly 'this is a fake marriage for immigration purposes').
-Even if her PR status was revoked - what would you get from that? Basically nothing.
-As a final piece of encouragement to simply move on - you signed financial undertakings. That can potentially make things harder for you. Not to mention that hypothetically there is an argument that your own representations about the nature of your relationship were false. It's possible your ex-spouse can make things difficult for you (esp if you are trying to make things difficult for her).
I'd strongly suggest that you get over even calling it a 'scam' - it doesn't do you any good. It didn't work out is a fact and in the end mostly works out to the same - and it was probably an ill-advised endeavour to begin with. Get a clean separation and divorce and move on with your life.
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This is Canada where gay couples can have and raise children. Entering a marriage with no attraction between the 2 people because they are attracted to the other gender is a recipe for disaster. Promising to have someone’s child is not something that is ever enforceable. You embarked on this arrangement knowing it was not a true marriage but an arrangement that came with risk and could end at any time. You misrepresented the relationship as well so you also are at fault in the eyes of IRCC for misrepresenting that you were in a true relationship. Move on and hope she doesn’t claim welfare. You don’t need to provide any proof of funds to sponsor her sister but that’s about it.