love words before being official

[medellinguy]

Hi there,

I just want to make sure if the OI will mind if we used love words in chats "baby, love, i love you, i miss you, etc." before we were officially together. The thing is we first met in august 2009, had great time and feelings for each other, but we wanted to see if we were going to see each other again and we did in december 2009. Meanwhile, she asked for a visa to canada and we said we were friends (in october, got visa in december, came in april).

So, will the OI think it's weird we say those words but are still friends in our history. I explained we had great affinities but prefered to be casual and friends since we didn't know what would happen...but yeah we were madly in love with each other and we officialized the relationship in december 2009 when we met again.

what are your thoughts?

thanks

 

[medellinguy]

anyone please??

 

[Cdagal]

Haha I hope not...we loved each other before we ever even met My first trip to Brazil just cemented what we already felt for months before that...I explained that all in our development of relationship letter, and showed the e-mails and chats just the way they are.

 

[medellinguy]

so you would send them as they are??

 

[Cdagal]

Personally, I think it makes a relationship look more real if they can watch it "develop". It makes more sense than saying that you loved each other only from this date forward...real relationships don't work that way. I would send them the way they are, and reference your developing feelings in your development of relationship letter.

 

[medellinguy]

Personally, I think it makes a relationship look more real if they can watch it "develop". It makes more sense than saying that you loved each other only from this date forward...real relationships don't work that way. I would send them the way they are, and reference your developing feelings in your development of relationship letter.

I am not saying we started to love each other from the date in december. I am just saying we both committed to this relationship, acknowledging that we wanted to be committed together.....

I am saying that in August when we met, we fell in love with each other yes of course, but in december, it was like : ok, we love each other so know let's start a life together...

 

[Cdagal]

Yeah, I see what you mean...but I still think it is the normal course of events to have feelings before you commit to spending your life iwth someone. Most of the best marriages start out as special friendships and evolve.

 

[medellinguy]

well, in december it wasn't the marriage declaration.........

I have another question, I saved all my emails that my girlfriend sent me when I was working this summer for my internship. Now that I am going to take screenshots, does it bother if they are in my e-mail program and not taken from my office computer??

thanks

 

[mayasita]

Maybe it's just me, but I suspect that you may be over-analyzing things... I think show them the proof that you have for how your relationship developed... They will put more credit into photos trips ect than words on the computer as those are easier to manipulate... Maybe that's just me, but give the proof you have and try not to compare it to someone elses...

Good luck

 

[Cdagal]

Honestly, I provided alot of different kinds of proof, but I had major computer issues and lost alot of chat logs. I also had trouble with Windows Live Chat, which is how we talked for about 6 months. When they stopped providing the service, they deleted the records. I just took what I had (for the periods I had no chat logs, I showed other forms of daily contact, emails, letters, phone bills...) and showed it as best I could. I just gave a cross-section that showed the length and general content of our contact history. I think having "perfect" records makes it look like your immigration plans are too pre-planned, if you get what I mean.

 

[medellinguy]

Honestly, I provided alot of different kinds of proof, but I had major computer issues and lost alot of chat logs. I also had trouble with Windows Live Chat, which is how we talked for about 6 months. When they stopped providing the service, they deleted the records. I just took what I had (for the periods I had no chat logs, I showed other forms of daily contact, emails, letters, phone bills...) and showed it as best I could. I just gave a cross-section that showed the length and general content of our contact history. I think having "perfect" records makes it look like your immigration plans are too pre-planned, if you get what I mean.

If I print the screenshot of about 5 months of constant communication, do I need to print some of those e-mails or it's alright just with the screenshots??

 

[Cdagal]

I would print one per week, just to show general content...try and pick happy ones

 

[HoneyBird]

Yeah, I see what you mean...but I still think it is the normal course of events to have feelings before you commit to spending your life iwth someone. Most of the best marriages start out as special friendships and evolve.

I had to give you positive karma for this one!!! so damn true!

 

[canada_777]

this is nice lol