IM IN A BIG MESS!!!

[weary-damsil31]

HI TO ALL!!!

I have been hesitant to post this kind of thing but i guess much more helpful if i would ask someone who can answer all my questions...

i have been in canada since august of last year as a nanny but i left my first boss on oct. so i just worked with them for 2 mos. i got my new working permit last month jan 10,2010 finally..

my delimma is, i just found out that i am pregnant last week to be exact its 6 weeks on the way...

my bf cant think of any solution as i am bringing my married name although i have been searated fr 5 yrs.
my fear is that i will loss my job at present which is i love (the family treats me well and i learned to love the kids) but what if they will find out?they have no idea that i have been seeing a guy since i started working with them.

what must i do?my work permit stated that i am allowed to stay in canada untill 2014.i know it is a crime to do the A thing but i am desperate...what must i do???pls help me...

 

[nano24482]

1. Canada is a free country and abortion is not a crime. Hence, the final choice is yours and yours only.

2. Are you separated or divorced??? Your bf has a work permit/PR/citizenship in Canada??? Can you marry or declare yourself partner in law???

3. I have no idea about work permit, but i guess u need to maintain a job to have a work permit. So your best bet is to maintain your work permit by staying with the family you are working. If comfortable you can talk to them.

4. Rest all is personal choice.

 

[weary-damsil31]

yes,my bf is a canadian citizen...i am separated for 5 yrs.i dont know what to do!!!!

 

[nano24482]

You can get a divorce in your home country and move in with your bf.

 

[BCguy]

First of Abortion is not a crime or you can always give up your baby for adoption or If you keep your baby He has to pay child support thats the law.Terminating for pregnancy is against the law Why dont you just divorce your husband and common law or marry your BF.You have so many options You are in Canada

 

[BCguy]

Nano If She is Pinay,there is NO DIVORCE in the Philippines and Abortion will put you in jail for 10-20 years

 

[weary-damsil31]

filling the annulment in phils.takes sometime.i have spoken to the lawyer and she said it takes a year before i get anulled...

a friend of mine told me that i can file the divorce here in canada without any hustle as long as i have stayed for a year that i need not to ask the signature of my husband in phils.

my job is at stake at this time...i know it's a SIN committing an A but i was just too desperate that couldnt think of any reasonable options rather than that but its not easy as i have tried to book online but my schedule will be on march 3...i know God has something to tell me by those signs and i dont know whay i clicked the website out of consiousness...

i have read a lot of situations relating mine which helped a lot for clearing my mind and heart.... i have sleepless nights thinking about this,i cant imagine myself going to the abortionist allowing him to kill me own baby..but again,if that is the only option then...i would rather risk it....

 

[nano24482]

I am really sorry, but I had no idea about laws in your country so maybe I gave you wrong advise.
First of all you can start your work on divorce. Take advise of a lawyer here and ask whether your frnd is right or not.
You can talk to your employer too. Maybe he doesn't have any problem with your baby.

 

[BCguy]

Why do you need a Annulment to divorce your husband?????It takes only 4-6 Months to get a divorce For example I will be in BC Supreme Court tommorow to assist 2 caregivers to divorce their husbands.Yes you dont need the signature of your husband.CIC doent need an annulment,A Canadian divorce is fine

 

[Pippin]

Your inbox is full, WD.
This is such an exceptional situation, although I am sure many have faced what you do now. There was a contact line for nanny's facing abuse. I know this is completely different, but I wonder if they could be of assistance to you as far as your immigration situation? Seniors may be able to tell you if it is advisable to discuss this with cic or not. You may be able to do it anonymously as well, but it would be good to understand your rights.
http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/department/media/notices/notice-caregiver.asp#tphp idtphp
Citizenship and Immigration Canada (CIC) wants safe and informed live-in caregivers. That is why we are pleased to let live-in caregivers working in Canada know about an improved telephone service available to them, through CIC's main telephone line. Dial 1-888-242 2100, choose your language, then dial 1, then 1, then 4, working through the prompts, to speak to an expert on the Live-in Caregiver Program.
Caregivers can talk to someone to learn more about the general requirements of the Live-in Caregiver Program.

Caregivers who face abuse, intimidation or threats in their current jobs should call to find out what help CIC can provide.

 

[BCguy]

There are none profit societies that help caregivers in Ontario,BC or AB you can also go to them

 

[nano24482]

+1 to BCGuy and Pippin for excellent guidance.
Freedom is one of the many reasons people immigrate to Canada.
This is what makes Canada one of the best countries to live in.
Doesn't matter whether you are a male or a female, straight or gay, religious or non religious. rich or poor.
Everyone has equal rights and are treated in dignity no matter what the choice.

 

[BCguy]

Exactly thats Why I am proud of "my home and native land"

 

[spokes]

I must say your instincts are right not to go for the "A" word as a first option.
If you firmly believe this (which I pray that you do), I think you should approach your employers with this situation. I know it may seem daunting at first, but you may be shocked they will just be willing to help.
I know of a similar situation as yours and the nanny was not asked to leave! Rather, her employer asked her to stay on for as long as she could (cos she was great with the kids)!
So don't fret and think positively, okay?

 

[speednab]

I agree with SPOKES.
God with you!