HOW DID YOU AND YOUR SPONSOR MEET? Detailed vs Brief

[scorfuse]

Okay, here's the thing. We are stuck in this one portion of our application: HOW WE MET.

I just don't know if we should include all the details, or we should just give a general idea about how we met. Like do we simply say, "We met through Facebook" or should we include all the details like, he had an ex girlfriend before we met, then while we were chatting as friends they broke up, then eventually we got together", that sort of thing. Like is it necessary to be DETAILED? Isn't it enough to just BRIEFLY say we met in Facebook and leave it at that?

Will the VO want specific details, like the name of the ex gf, her number, etc etc.

Please give me some advice guys, my head is REELING because I don't want to compromise our application.

Thanks in advance.

 

[steaky]

Better to be detail

 

[MadeInCanada]

Honesty is key.

That being said, it is really up to you how much information you want to divulge. You both can write a letter explaining your relationship and how it progressed, one can be brief and summarize it while the other can give more details. Again that is up to you.

If you have any "red flags" you may want to go into more detail to emphasize the relationship is genuine. But, I do not know your case so that is just a suggestion. If it is a straight forward application you can get away with being more general.

I can suggest something like: We met on facebook, became friends, started to chat more frequently, then daily. Over time developed feelings and decided we wanted to pursue a relationship.

Gives a bit of detail but not much, you can include dates as well.

As far as I know they will not call any ex's.

Its an ordeal putting the application together, when you feel overwhelmed, go have a coffee/tea and take a break. when you come back to it it will be with a renewed sense of "ok I can do this!"

Take Care
MadeInCanada

 

[truesmile]

You could even just say "we met online" without divulging exactly where online, and then continue with your story. The whole story is going to be the important part anyway, whether it's FB, eHarmony, isn't going to matter so much.

 

[scorfuse]

Alright, so no need to specify details like the ex's first name, or anything about their relationship before ours right? Just keep it simple, like say, "he had a girlfriend when we started talking, but then he broke up with her and decided to pursue me." And then proceed to narrating how our relationship developed. Will that do?

 

[Sweden]

Alright, so no need to specify details like the ex's first name, or anything about their relationship before ours right? Just keep it simple, like say, "he had a girlfriend when we started talking, but then he broke up with her and decided to pursue me." And then proceed to narrating how our relationship developed. Will that do?

yes - that probably will. It depends on which VO you're going through. In some cultures, it's more common to have arranged marriage through family etc, and if that's the case, the VO would like to know.
If there is nothing special in your culture, and it's OK to meet online, then there is no need to be too specific. You don't even have to specify about him having a gf at the time... you can just stick to " we met online, started talking, then things developed" etc.
Good luck,
Sweden

 

[Asephil]

Okay, here's the thing. We are stuck in this one portion of our application: HOW WE MET.

I just don't know if we should include all the details, or we should just give a general idea about how we met. Like do we simply say, "We met through Facebook" or should we include all the details like, he had an ex girlfriend before we met, then while we were chatting as friends they broke up, then eventually we got together", that sort of thing. Like is it necessary to be DETAILED? Isn't it enough to just BRIEFLY say we met in Facebook and leave it at that?

Will the VO want specific details, like the name of the ex gf, her number, etc etc.

Please give me some advice guys, my head is REELING because I don't want to compromise our application.

Thanks in advance.

Well, for me, i gave them a brief detail but well elaborated that i met my husband online through a dating website and because on my part it was a dating website, i included his profile so that they can see from our perspective what we were looking for. It was a brief detail but with evidence so if you want to skip all of the explanation, you can include proof of how your relationship progress to the point of you getting serious and then get married. I think evidence holds a strong point!

I hope my answer helps.

Cheers

 

[scorfuse]

I'm just concerned about withholding information like him having a gf when we first started talking and be accused of misrepresentation. Like do we really need to explain that he was with a different girl at the time and realized he wasn't happy with her and that I was more his type of girl, etc etc? Do they care about this stuff? Like if I simply said, "We met in Facebook." If I didn't elaborate, won't the VO ask "How did you meet in facebook? How did you first start talking. Who initiated the contact?" That sort of thing. Sorry if I'm overanalyzing. Just wanna make sure we're doing the right thing. :-X

NEED ALL THE INPUT/OPINIONS I COULD GET. THANKS GUYS!