Help! I am about to quit before even starting

[Landagirl]

First of all besides having to convince 2 ex wives that medicals need to be done for 3 kids that will not be coming to Canada is going to be hard enough. Now I just called a panel physician for pricing and what is required for them to bring. A passport or valid gov't Id, birth certificate and school ID does not count. Anyone know what else counts as Valid Government ID besides a passport in the United States? I called CIC and they couldnt give me an answer, tried to talk to someone in the States and it was just a machine. He is estranged from the 2 oldest so that itself is an issue, just pays child support 15 & 17, medical and passport is going to be impossible. The youngest is going to be an issue as well, he has joint custody and the ex is a nightmare to begin with. He needed where she was born for his passport and she refused to tell him, told him it was public record, figure it out yourself. Maybe we should just wait 10 years until they are all over 19 and then maybe we can live happily ever after. Sorry, I am usually a very positive, optimistic person, not a good day on my preparing our future together, trying to get everything in order and its not working out so well.

 

[sunshinemrc]

That's a hard situation for him and for you. Have you discussed moving to the U.S. instead? Might a viable option.

 

[Landagirl]

I would if I could. I have 2 sons as well and it would be a huge custody battle on my end so moving there isn't an option at the moment. I wish it was that easy, trust me I would be gone in a heartbeat.

 

[Ponga]

Since it sounds like none of his children will be coming to Canada...don't let it derail your plans.
Do what you can to get the information, but at some point you'll just need to write a letter explaining the circumstances, and include it with the application.


It would be a completely different story if he was planning to move the kids to Canada.

 

[sunshinemrc]

I would if I could. I have 2 sons as well and it would be a huge custody battle on my end so moving there isn't an option at the moment. I wish it was that easy, trust me I would be gone in a heartbeat.

In this case my advice would be for your husband to send written correspondence to the children's moms and explain that although the kids will remain in U.S. it is a requirement for him to add the kids to his immigration application as non accompanying dependants. He should correspond in writing so that if they refuse the medical for the kids he can include this correspondence to CIC advising that he cannot have the kids examined by CIC and he understands that he will never be able to sponsor them to canada.

Now there may be a matter of his ex's being afraid that once he is in Canada he will not pay child support etc. I am not sure if there is an agreement between US and Canada to enforce child support payments (I think there may be) if if that's the case your husband should also provide the ex's with that information so they would be more agreeable to allow the kids to be examined and not create issues for him immigrating.

 

[jhutti]

As other replied. No big deal if kids are not allowed by ex to do medical. Do some formal correspondence as request and if not done then explain it to cic with written understanding that u hubby with never able to sponser kids to canada
As for child and any spouse support. Canada and us have agreement. He will have to pay based on latest new canadian income. With u being with him. He will pay less but will need to call motion for reduced pay at later date