Hearing has been postponed twice.

[sickntired]

Hi experts!

It is really height of frustration that our hearing for appeal has been postponed twice by IAD. It already three years has been passed and our first hearing was scheduled in Toronto in last september 2009. on the day of hearing, the IAD consular excused that she was not comfortable in the hearing room because it was small for her. ( I dont know if she wanted to play a soccer in the room ) and it was reschuled after six months that is in April 09,2010 and to my wonder, when I reached to IAD for hearing, I'd been told that no judge was available and I would get an other hearing date. I am really frustrated like anything. is it common in IAD hearing? why these fu.......ing people are playing with our life? we are in appeal process for last three years. It is ridicuoius. I really dont know to whom I should appraoch???

 

[RobsLuv]

I'm sick and tired, too. They haven't treated us as badly as they have you, but close. I don't even know what to tell you other than there really doesn't seem to be anything you can do . . . no recourse, because their attitude is, "If you want to scrap your appeal and not bring your family to Canada at all, that's fine with us. If you want your chance, you play the game our way." You (and your family member) are the only ones who have an emotional investment in this process - they simply don't care. All you can do is wait and try not to let it get to you. Not that I've mastered that myself, by any means, but this whole thing can eat you alive if you let it. You can't let it.

 

[boyee6576]

You have all my sympathy. My husband and I have struggled for years, given wrong advice which we followed thinking they had to know what they were talking about. They didnt.

When my husband had his interveiw in Delhi the IO was so rude and mean to him my husband lost all confidence and his mind went totally blank. We had a realtionship for nearly 7 years. All kinds of proof that our relationship was real. He showed her our wedding pictures and she made fun of our I look and it really upset my husband. He didnt know which end was up. Long story short this process is not for the faint of heart. I had my ADR conference and we fortunately won. Have you considered talking to your MP? In the mean time go over your points for the rejection and your spouses interveiw notes. When you finally do get your meeting one thing they watch for is that you speak with out hesitation and confidence. I got relatives to ask me questions so I could practice giving my answers orally. I am kind of a shy person so this really helped me. My interview went fairly smooth the DRO was really nice and so was the Ministers council. They asked me questions about things I was not expecting but I answered honestly and with confidence even though inside I was a nervous wreck. But honestly my heart goes out to you.