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[fredcracklin]

these forms assume a lot. that people who get married do so under all the usual conventional contrivances.

i would like to ask anyone who doesn't believe in ceremony, religion, rings, etc etc, did you just attach as much photo documentation as possible, and write up detailed explanations of how your life doesn't exactly "fit" with norms? did you get friends and family to write on your behalf?

 

[sashali78]

these forms assume a lot. that people who get married do so under all the usual conventional contrivances.

i would like to ask anyone who doesn't believe in ceremony, religion, rings, etc etc, did you just attach as much photo documentation as possible, and write up detailed explanations of how your life doesn't exactly "fit" with norms? did you get friends and family to write on your behalf?

You don't have to follow suit and "make up" photos and stories of ceremonies which didn't take place because you don't believe in them, but since CIC officer will expect you to follow certain standards, you DO need to provide a cover letter with explanation how did your own relationship developed, your beliefs and why you didn't "follow suit". It may or may not raise a red flag, depending on your age, personal situation and how well your explanation and other relationship evidence is.

 

[ayrazar]

I think in your case letters of support would be a good idea. Not a metric ton, just like one from each set of parents, maybe some close friends. Just to support the committed and loving nature of your relationship regardless of typical ceremony etc.

 

[MilesAway]

There was a section on the forms that allowed you to elaborate on the wedding rituals. My wife and I had a civil ceremony outdoors. We exchanged candy rings since neither of us wears jewelry. We simply explained what happened at the ceremony, why we chose it, and that it was special to us.

It also depends on the cultural norms for the parties involved. In some cultures, it's highly unusual for couples to have small weddings, and that would raise eyebrows even if there wasn't immigration paperwork involved. In others, such as North America, it's not uncommon for couples to get married at the courthouse with only a few witnesses.

CIC knows that people are different. They are mostly looking for compatibility, so if you are extremely religious, but your spouse is not, then they would have some doubts. They're also looking for things that would raise red flags, like a secret wedding that goes against all your religious and cultural values.

Whatever your situation, be honest in the forms. If you feel that you need to elaborate more, then include a separate sheet of paper with more information.