Does this mean we are 100% scheduled for an interview?

[Big Jump]

Thank you for contacting the High Commission of Canada in Singapore.

Subject file is still in interview queue. Please wait to receive further instructions from this office.


First contact from the Singapore office. Submitted package in March 2012. Sponsorship Approval in June 2012.

Nothing at all.

After a few inquiring emails, I received this. Burst into tears. This means at least another year waiting time doesn't it? I really never thought this would be so emotionally grueling. It just makes things so difficult. I feel like we cannot plan our lives and this treading water is exhausting me.

I feel exhausted. Already. And now we have the additional pressure of the interview. And the additional wait time.

I know we are all going through it. And this is a tad self-indulgent, but this email really just broke my heart. I moved back to Canada for school and to wait for the visa. Now I will need to move back to Thailand (a place I do love, we lived there together for 5 years), find more work, wait for the interview, wait for the approval, then start preparing myself to move back to Canada and build my career up again.

Bahhh. And I can't even call my husband to talk to him because of the time difference and he has to work in the morning.

Fudge.

 

[millslu]

it is sad its taking so long, but at least you got an answer from them, how long does the processing time take in your visa office? but be patient dont let it break you down, why do you think you would need an interview?do you have any red flags in your appliations.

 

[MadeInCanada]

I can't give you any advice, I am not going through the same VO. I can't tell you everything is going to be all rainbows and butterflies either.

I can tell you that I understand all your worries and fears, that is something we are both going through. Like most of others here on this forum.

I read your post and my heart plummeted like it was falling out of my chest. I hope everything works out for you. You are in my thoughts and my prayers.

Take Care.

 

[Big Jump]

Thank you two.

No red flags I can think of. The only real issue was that we met in person, and lived together so we didn't have a lot of communication via email or Skype. We have about a million pictures of us together during all that time. (1 year dating, 4 living together). Pictures of my family visiting. The wedding. It is so frustrating to fall in love and then have it questioned at every turn even though you have devoted yourselves to each other for over 5 years.

My heart plummeted too when I read that email. It really did. Tears are still coming. I guess part of me really thought that if I came home, got the second degree and really prepared myself for our life together in Canada then it would happen. It still will, it will just take a lot longer.

And I may as well put it all on the table. I am 30. We want to start a family, but I won't do that until I feel secure enough to give my child the best life. What if all this waiting means we miss our chance for that? I am terrified.

And that email. So short. And cold. It just hurts. Really bad.

Thanks for taking the time to show me some comfort.

 

[Maddants]

Thank you for contacting the High Commission of Canada in Singapore.

Subject file is still in interview queue. Please wait to receive further instructions from this office.


First contact from the Singapore office. Submitted package in March 2012. Sponsorship Approval in June 2012.

Nothing at all.

After a few inquiring emails, I received this. Burst into tears. This means at least another year waiting time doesn't it? I really never thought this would be so emotionally grueling. It just makes things so difficult. I feel like we cannot plan our lives and this treading water is exhausting me.

I feel exhausted. Already. And now we have the additional pressure of the interview. And the additional wait time.

I know we are all going through it. And this is a tad self-indulgent, but this email really just broke my heart. I moved back to Canada for school and to wait for the visa. Now I will need to move back to Thailand (a place I do love, we lived there together for 5 years), find more work, wait for the interview, wait for the approval, then start preparing myself to move back to Canada and build my career up again.

Bahhh. And I can't even call my husband to talk to him because of the time difference and he has to work in the morning.

Fudge.

hey there Big Jump, I know what you are going thru for sure...i dont know about you visa office but my visa office is in Kingston, Jamaica.....i got back an email response from them telling me that my application is queue for an interview and they are wait to schedule an interview date for me...I got that email back in February and all now they have not give me any interview date as yet....i dont know how long i have to wait to get my date at all...so in all i know that it really hurts but one thing though is that we have to get thru this process one day.

 

[MadeInCanada]

All the plans for the future are put on hold for all of this to finish for me too. It has been a very long time since I even saw my husband in person(16 months) and counting. We still have another 12 months according the the processing times.

We have be married for almost 3 years, and together for 5. To have our relationship dissected like a frog in a science lab, so some complete stranger can tell me if my husband married me or Canada is absurd to say the least.

Some days I want to find a cave to hide in, of course, the internet service would probably suck, and I wouldn't be able to get skype...

You are not alone. Hope you can find comfort in that.

 

[Big Jump]

You guys are very sweet.

Went over to a friend's place and she talked me off the ledge. Guess it is back to Thailand for me. Not the worst thing in the world by any stretch of the imagination.

16 months! Holy hannah. We have only been apart for 8. You guys are strong.

Just a waiting game. The whole Keep Calm and Carry On. I guess now we just have to wait and see how long until the interview is scheduled. No sense, worrying about it until then. It could still be another 2 years!!

Bahhhhhh.

 

[Sweden]

It's a bit strange that you are asked for an interview after living together for 4 years, and having proofs of that I suppose. So maybe the "in the interview queue" is a standard answer because they haven't opened your file yet... so don't despair.
Moving to Thailand and waiting with your partner is probably a good idea, if the VO at a later stage does require more documents, you can show that you are back in Thailand, hence serious about your relationship. Of course - that's only a possibility if you're Canadian. If you're a PR, you must stay in Canada for the duration of the application, no matter how long it takes.

And - about children: don't worry! at 30, you still have plenty of time to have children, no reason to worry - and don't let society pressure tell you otherwise! there is a certain pressure on women who turn 30 to start thinking about children NOW, and I understand that you want to start a family - but waiting a little bit won't make a difference most likely! and if you try and see the positive side : it allows you now to do lots of things (traveling to Thailand etc) that would be much more difficult with a child/children.

Good luck - and don't despair!
Sweden

 

[mikeymyke]

No red flags I can think of. The only real issue was that we met in person, and lived together so we didn't have a lot of communication via email or Skype. We have about a million pictures of us together during all that time. (1 year dating, 4 living together). Pictures of my family visiting. The wedding. It is so frustrating to fall in love and then have it questioned at every turn even though you have devoted yourselves to each other for over 5 years.

Actually I think there is another red flag, and that is your hubby had 2 prior drug convictions. I know the fact that you guys had such a long relationship, and have lived together for a long time should FAR outweigh that fact, but maybe the VO saw something amiss, and thought an interview is warranted? I don't know.

I wish you the best, Big Jump.

 

[millslu]

Actually I think there is another red flag, and that is your hubby had 2 prior drug convictions. I know the fact that you guys had such a long relationship, and have lived together for a long time should FAR outweigh that fact, but maybe the VO saw something amiss, and thought an interview is warranted? I don't know.

I wish you the best, Big Jump.

woa now that a huge red flag how did you know about that @mike?

 

[mikeymyke]

I read her old posts, but as I said before, despite that, I think the fact they lived together for so long, should far outweigh those drug charges. And having an interview isn't the end of the world, at least this will give your hubby a chance to explain himself. But at the same time, on the CIC website, it does say that an applicant may be refused based on a criminal record or failed medical test.

 

[Shiny88]

Did Vo officially send you a letter stating that you are in queue for an interview?or they just replied to your enquiry saying you are on the queue.But they still supposed to send you a mail about it. AM sorry to tell you but it means you wll have to wait up to 24months to get a interview date scheduled (mine took 14months to be shceduled). I and my husband went through hell with this waiting we are almost done aifter over 2yrs of processing.
All i can tell you is to gather relationship proofs from now on,so you will have plenty by the time of the interview.

Dont loose hope , goodluck

 

[Big Jump]

Both the offences are over 10 years old and the King of Thailand has officially expunged him of his record. (Of course, being Thailand, they do not remove them from the record but just make an official note that his record has been expunged.)

I was hoping they would not be a serious issue, but maybe it will be. From my research it seemed it should be a non-issue. Makes him feel awful. Makes me feel awful. I just have to finish school (crunch time) with this constantly banging around in my head.

Another poster in the Singapore timeline thread told me that he got a similar email. Meant he was on the interview list. And I suppose we shall be too.

I wish I didn't feel so upset about this, but it really feels hurtful. I guess that is the best way to describe it. It feels like someone is telling me that we are not good enough.

 

[on-hold]

I lived in Thailand with my wife before we emigrated to Canada under the FSW program (it took one year, and would have been faster if we didn't have a newborn). My wife's cousin met a Canadian guy on the Internet, met him and married him in about 3 weeks, he went back to Canada and got her over there in about 8 months. I didn't think much of it at the time, but now it seems fast -- I wonder why yours is so slow?

It might be that he badgered them into giving her a tourist visa, and then applied for PR for her when she was already in Canada? I can't remember now what the details were, but I THINK he went through the sponsorship while she was still in Thailand.

Where in Thailand do you live?

 

[Big Jump]

On-hold,

I am currently in Canada. I moved here in August to go through my professional year and acquire my B.Ed. I was hopeful about the entire process then and thought I was moving here to wait for him, and then we could start the new chapter together.

I am 3 weeks away from graduation. With this new news I will be moving back to Thailand until the visa comes through. These 8 months were serving a purpose (furthering my education) but I hate feeling like a married to a 2D computer screen. For me a marriage means being together, so I will move back to begin another long wait.

I have heard stories similar to your friends. My best friends mother married a Cuban man. Knew him for 6 months (total of 1 month holiday time together) got married, applied for the visa and had him here in 8 months.

I think it is stories like that that make this hurt more.

I supposed I will just have to cling to that tired maxim that everything happens for a reason. Keep my chin up. The sting of being on the interview list will subside over time, and we will just have to focus on the uncertain future (with regards to where we will be able to set up our lives)