It's really tough to deal with for my wife and I. It looks like it'll take 12+ months for us. She wanted to come to Canada to meet my parents before we got married but her TRV was rejected twice, we we got married without my parents having ever met her in person. And now we're waiting for a process which, sometimes, feels artificially long.
Just above they were talking about ordering the visa officer notes to know more about why the process is taking so long, to get some insight into an otherwise opaque process. I did this for the TRV, and the document was automatically generated one or two days after I had requested, and sent to me after 31 days exactly (one day after the allowed limit). It had been sitting on a shelf - not a real shelf mind you, a digital shelf, for almost a month. So in some way or another, the system is intentionally designed to be slow, as if to mock the user.
And now I'm in Canada, my wife is 12 timezones away and we're just hoping to be reunited, both of us terrified because even though our application is super simple with no real red flags, there's no way to know what the visa officer will think. And I'm just thinking this process is robbing us of maybe 2%, maybe 3-5% of the time we wish we could have together in our lifetimes. Maybe there's a good explanation somewhere for why it's okay for applicants from India and some other countries to be processed extremely fast and for Russians to have to wait over a year, but without any explanation it just feels unfair.
Maybe I'm being overly dramatic forgive me.
You're not being dramatic, I can be dramatic. It's hard to be away from you're spouse. It's especially harder because our timelines are unknown. Before I met my husband my mother was my bestfriend. It was her dream to have grandchildren. But we unfortunately lost her through cancer. Now that I'm married, it is my husband and my dream to have children. But I refuse to be pregnant without my mom or my husband by my side. As a woman, time is ticking. It's so hard to accept that our lives are in the hands of these visa officers. Our life is put on hold because of them. So much money and time off of work has been put in this relationship because travelling halfway ac4the world is the only way to be with my husband. Like you, we had 2 rejected TRVs. But all we have is hope.